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Agreed. Joel Send a noteboard - 28/09/2009 12:06:29 AM
My 9-month-old daughter has no idea if she does something that we consider to be "wrong" and she's FAR too young to be yelled at or spanked.

The study organizer said the following:

The best use of spanking, Larzelere said, is in children between the ages of 2 and 6 when milder discipline tactics, such as time out, fail.

In other words, the study basically concluded that (1) you shouldn't immediately spank as a punishment, (2) you should only spank older children who can appreciate the connection between the behavior and the punishment and (3) you don't EVER demean a child verbally - criticize actions and behaviors, not people or their intrinsic qualities.

Either that, or the study got it all wrong - maybe the kids are spanked more BECAUSE they're stupid. :P

Especially on point three, but that seems to be a VERY subtle nuance many, if not most, people don't recognize. Hence we can't say cannibalism, bestiality, genocide etc. etc. are inherently "wrong" because we can't make value judgments about PEOPLE; that would be... er... wrong.... :confused:

Of course, stating it's wrong to go into a supermarket and start gunning down people at random for fun doesn't make any value judgment on a person, only the action, which I'd hope we can all agree is indefensible. Likewise, the possibility someone might do that or something similar due to the effects of current or past trauma in their lives may be relevant to the severity of the penalty, but doesn't mitigate the results of the behavior and thus fails to make it any more acceptable.

Yes, I realize a lot of that seems like it should be patently obvious; what bothers me (a lot) is that it evidently often isn't.

To return to topic, the article isn't all bad, but where it succeeds, I think, is where it applies common sense becoming conventional wisdom. Spanking shouldn't be the first response in most cases, at least IMHO, or it could very easily create the impression that every problem should be first addressed with force. It shouldn't be used when the child is unable to connect the spanking with the consequences of their actions, or it's just abuse that could, if frequent enough, produce traumatic scarring. Indeed, it seems most effective when it is a last resort; Star Trek quotes aside there are regrettably times when violence can only be countered with violence, but to reduce the need as much as possible it is paramount to ensure violence is only accepted when all other options have failed.
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Negative memories aren't all bad. Parents just need to be consistent, yet loving. *NM* - 26/09/2009 02:06:07 PM 293 Views
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I dunno.. - 26/09/2009 02:49:50 PM 579 Views
I do believe this study was created to prove the point, not test it. - 26/09/2009 03:25:54 PM 602 Views
What are your grounds for that belief? - 26/09/2009 04:11:37 PM 599 Views
Duke University is one of the best universities in the United States - 26/09/2009 05:11:21 PM 593 Views
Yeah, I have heard of it. - 26/09/2009 05:56:30 PM 564 Views
I agree with her, and here's why - 26/09/2009 06:28:53 PM 565 Views
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hehe. *NM* - 27/09/2009 04:24:54 PM 282 Views
I would agree... and... - 27/09/2009 01:45:48 AM 519 Views
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Clearly that's why all of our old people are so stupid. - 26/09/2009 04:09:52 PM 575 Views
No, no, that's just nossy bringing down the average. *NM* - 26/09/2009 04:12:10 PM 281 Views
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Hahaha *NM* - 26/09/2009 05:58:01 PM 307 Views
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She's a beauty! - 28/09/2009 05:16:36 AM 557 Views
too cute for words! *NM* - 28/09/2009 01:33:29 PM 316 Views
That is also what I got. *NM* - 27/09/2009 12:56:08 AM 283 Views
It isn't brain science... wiat a minute, it actually is... - 27/09/2009 01:18:35 AM 560 Views
Agreed. - 28/09/2009 12:06:29 AM 621 Views
For children that young, I can agree. - 26/09/2009 05:56:41 PM 560 Views
With this too, I agree. ^_^ *NM* - 27/09/2009 01:46:32 AM 256 Views
*rings in* Same. - 04/10/2009 11:55:02 PM 732 Views
Really? - 27/09/2009 01:48:35 AM 616 Views
I must be pretty stupid, then. - 28/09/2009 05:49:26 PM 552 Views
It certainly can make them kinky. *NM* - 28/09/2009 07:19:34 PM 298 Views
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When the kid has both, it's really screwed over then. *NM* - 05/10/2009 07:48:15 PM 232 Views

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