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I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine Send a noteboard - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM
And/or let people bully you into having a "proper wedding".

I think if you have a lot of people there, some costs will inevitably get high (for example, food, seating, etc...), but a lot of stuff is pretty damned open to mitigation. I've had a friend send me a Save The Date wedding note, AND a wedding invitation. The latter after I informed her personally that I wouldn't be able to make it. Unnecessary pennies. I had another friend who was freaking about how much PHOTOS would cost (Apparently wedding photos cost A LOT). Give a friend a camera and take photos that way. No they won't be "As nice", but whatever. most people can pull off taking a reasonable still photo with a good camera in decent lighting.

It just seems so silly to me. i mean, if that's what you want GO FOR IT!! People should have the weddings they want!! But I hate it when people complain about cost (not saying this is you) and then keep trying to do a "perfect/proper" wedding... what's important is marrying someone you love. Anything on top of that is open to negotiation.
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So it turns out that weddings are expensive... Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:24:17 PM 1757 Views
I am looking to drop about a grand on my son's rehearsal dinner *NM* random thoughts - 12/12/2011 04:42:53 PM 453 Views
Well, part of it is that the rehearsal dinner isn't on the $5k budget. Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:46:30 PM 754 Views
It is avoidable, but people will treat you like you're a nutcase if you don't do most of the things nossy - 12/12/2011 05:02:14 PM 795 Views
my first wedding was in church with a pretty dress and a preacher random thoughts - 12/12/2011 06:12:02 PM 740 Views
We had a pretty dress and a notary public in the courtyard of the B&B. nossy - 12/12/2011 09:36:52 PM 781 Views
If I had it to all over again I would have formed a Rock Band and dated supermodels *NM* random thoughts - 13/12/2011 04:20:28 PM 421 Views
*NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/12/2011 10:15:04 PM 422 Views
Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 05:29:19 PM 854 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:02:44 PM 763 Views
Re: Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 06:44:30 PM 920 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 07:27:16 PM 858 Views
We kept it to about $5000 also (including cost of rings). Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:06:54 PM 819 Views
I would say our wedding was about that. Lici - 12/12/2011 06:45:46 PM 981 Views
I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM 846 Views
I got married two weeks ago for less than that. Aemon - 12/12/2011 09:56:43 PM 906 Views
Congrats Sareitha Sedai - 12/12/2011 10:03:35 PM 749 Views
Thanks! Aemon - 13/12/2011 02:53:11 PM 754 Views
You've been holding out on us. Congratulations. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 13/12/2011 12:02:39 AM 472 Views
Honestly, I didn't think anyone would care. Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:08:44 PM 729 Views
Hey! No announcement??? Congratulations and may you find many years of happiness! *NM* everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:27:51 AM 497 Views
No, no announcement. I'm not really the center-of-attention type. haha Thanks though! *NM* Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:10:29 PM 425 Views
Congratulations, my friend. Jacob - 13/12/2011 03:21:22 PM 686 Views
Thanks. Aemon - 13/12/2011 06:38:59 PM 800 Views
Acceptable... Jacob - 13/12/2011 06:40:29 PM 743 Views
OMG! Congratulations! Danu - 14/12/2011 10:43:05 PM 735 Views
Thanks Danu. *NM* Aemon - 15/12/2011 11:08:51 PM 427 Views
i had 500 people at my wedding....... Aisha - 13/12/2011 12:05:38 AM 914 Views
Everybody I have ever talked to that had a big, expensive wedding has told me that in hindsight... everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:29:34 AM 702 Views
Yes they are. We're planning ours and... callandor1000 - 13/12/2011 02:19:42 AM 793 Views
Some people just don't seem to think outside of the box ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:15:49 AM 879 Views
And several items on that chart are soo unnecessary *NM* ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:41:10 AM 448 Views
They're only as expensive as you make them. Tim - 14/12/2011 10:38:37 AM 718 Views
I'm so glad we went simple. Kaldric - 14/12/2011 03:08:45 PM 871 Views
As someone who had a smaller wedding than was expected by certain people... Danu - 14/12/2011 10:36:57 PM 832 Views
These seem kind of extreme. Vivien - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM 862 Views
because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM 892 Views
Not my personal history, but culture. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:53:12 PM 852 Views
I agree that there are better cuts to make than refreshments LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:35:13 PM 846 Views
Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM 861 Views
Yeah, and that's why Russians are all dying of alcoholism. *NM* Macharius - 15/12/2011 01:46:52 PM 460 Views
You don't have to be an alcoholic to prefer not to have a cash bar at a party. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:37:15 PM 756 Views
It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM 851 Views
seriously. who cares if people think you're "cheap". LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:41:33 PM 764 Views
What my family tends to do (because it's huge) is this: Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:16:31 PM 898 Views
That's what most German weddings do too. Reasonable. *NM* ironclad - 15/12/2011 03:38:40 PM 420 Views
If they're not close enough to invite to the reception, are they really needed at the ceremony? Vivien - 15/12/2011 08:18:18 PM 863 Views
In most cases, a church ceremony tends to be an open thing. Anyone can come. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 10:11:30 PM 882 Views
Apparently it's becoming more common over here to do weddings on a weekday. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:13:57 PM 757 Views
I can't imagine someone in America announcing their wedding was on a weekday. TaskmasterJack - 15/12/2011 10:07:55 PM 985 Views
People not in America have way more vacation days... *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:56:22 PM 418 Views
That was part of the logic in my thinking, yes. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 12:46:53 AM 402 Views
Fridays are actually becoming more common. Sareitha Sedai - 16/12/2011 04:51:41 PM 696 Views
Why does the band get more than the photographer? Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 04:30:29 PM 660 Views
well they do have to split it 4 or 5 ways random thoughts - 16/12/2011 04:38:36 PM 755 Views
The thing is... it's NOT a night's work. Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 09:27:30 PM 1048 Views
Because if you put tiny plastic musical instruments on all the tables, your ears will bleed out. TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 10:04:59 PM 1104 Views
My advice based on what I've done so far. callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:27:29 PM 718 Views
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