If she grew up at all. As I recall her main motive wasn't even to be part of the in crowd, but to have a way for spiteful vengeance and self advancement. She's more concerned with the Black Ajah giving her power in the existing order than a future one. And, yes, all of this makes her even more lame.

As for the Forsaken, that and Verins death were in their own way the most gratifying parts of the book for me, because Jordan (or Sanderson on his behalf) confirmed everything I've said for years about both subjects.

The Dark One will destroy everything if released. Ishamael is the only Forsaken who knows this and it's likely the reason he turned. The others are just wise fools to think their "Great Lord" will give them anything better than he gives anyone once free. The very premise defied plausibility: Why would the DO tolerate any of the Creators work once free, but even if he did install a tyrannical order, why would he need help running it?

At the same time, Verin is Black and doesn't mind the right people knowing because she's still secretly serving the Light as a triple agent. That last part isn't one of my old arguments, but only because I considered and rejected it on the basis that I don't think it plausible she could do that for so long without being caught. In the real world I'd probably be right, too, but fictions grant artistic license.

Now, when do you think the one rebellious Aes Sedai who hasn't apologized for rebellion will do so?