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Part of real common ground, real synchronization Roland00 Send a noteboard - 01/07/2020 11:43:49 PM

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But I don't think you can mold yourself to be something for anyone's approval. The best approval is the kind that doesn't matter, not the kind that you feel dependent on, no?

Perhaps it's the months of isolation but I find myself seeking common ground even with those where I would normally have none. Like you.

Maybe I should go back to trolling the board.


Part of real common ground, real synchronization ...

is learning which parts of us we are extremely firm in for they form our identity, our world view, our values.

But also to find out the part of ourselves where we have a stake in the ground but then attached to that stake is a rope that can roam around that stake. This is the area you are flexible in.

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All humans are like this, and I think it is self deception, when someone of us (hi Greg) treat "labels" like they are black and white. It is a form of psychological splitting, all or nothing thinking, it is also not true, and finally it is a form of objectification where you turn other people into objects. (Bye Greg)

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It is okay Mookie to seek common ground, while simultaneously seeking distance and boundaries. You are just merely feeling each other out and coming to an understanding.

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