Journal: Entry for Spriteling
Sometimes I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders
Author: Spriteling Send a noteboard
Posted: 22/07/2010 01:32:55 AM
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So many people come to me for help and advice. Some of them I can help, and some I cannot. The worst ones, though, are the ones who listen to what I have to say, acknowledge that I'm right, and then patently refuse to change anything. Some of those people are my best friends. They seem content to realise what they do and think is irrational and silly, but they won't do anything to change their thought patterns and actions.
It tears me up inside. I feel like I'm completely and utterly ineffective. I just want to help. I want my friends to be happy and healthy. Instead, I see these people who are miserable and I just can't do anything, because they won't listen to me and take action. They come to me time after time, and I see how unhappy they are and I just cry.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if there's anything I can do, besides listen and keep giving them the same advice. I can't abandon them, because they are my friends.
It's just all too much, sometimes. I feel all bent over from the weight of all these problems.
It tears me up inside. I feel like I'm completely and utterly ineffective. I just want to help. I want my friends to be happy and healthy. Instead, I see these people who are miserable and I just can't do anything, because they won't listen to me and take action. They come to me time after time, and I see how unhappy they are and I just cry.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if there's anything I can do, besides listen and keep giving them the same advice. I can't abandon them, because they are my friends.
It's just all too much, sometimes. I feel all bent over from the weight of all these problems.
Just be there.
They aren't coming to you for the advice. They are coming so they can talk. Some people write in journals to get it out, others rant to their friends. You ARE helping, but not because you're giving advice - more because you're there and actively thinking with them. Showing attention and love, if you will.
what nossy said 
be there, be their friend and sometimes things get better for them and they DO grow.
Yep, you got to just be there for them.
If you really want to help, then your friends will need to accept that help. There is no way to drag people to water......all you can do is just show it to them and tell them to drink.
You can put this to use by pointing out facts and your opinions on whatever the matter may be. Unfortunately in my experience people will only change or make changes if they decide to for themselves. So try not to tell them what to do but what effects their actions have. This might work better and get people on the right track. It works wonders for my friends. :smiley:
You can put this to use by pointing out facts and your opinions on whatever the matter may be. Unfortunately in my experience people will only change or make changes if they decide to for themselves. So try not to tell them what to do but what effects their actions have. This might work better and get people on the right track. It works wonders for my friends. :smiley: