That never lasts. People that need that are in for a lifetime of dissappointment.
And you can fall out of love and fall back in love again. Although "grow" would be a better word than "fall".
Craig and I have been married 27 years now but there were several years in there where we were not in love. More like friends with benefits and mutual responsibilities...it was rather painful. But we did come to love each other again once we got over preconceived notions of what love was.
This is probably no help at all. But love can grow back and it can come back much stronger than it originally was.
Hope that whatever is going wrong in your life gets better. I would love to see you happy.
you can't make someone love you, or fall in love with you. I suppose what i was looking for was a return of friendship and respect. I don't want to be coddled like i will break. I am a complete loss w/ the understanding of how a relatonship is supposed to work anyway- My parents have been unhappily married for 36 years. They got married b/c my mom was pregers with me. My dad was an alcoholic, he hit her, sometimes us (the kids). and I'd beg my mom to leave...but she wouldn't " I Love him too much." So I have a warped sense of what love is. I know I love the friends I've made here.
I don't even know that I have the stamina it would take to maintaina long term realtionship, but my first response is PUT his bags on the doorstep. Maybe my logic is off,but being just a friend is huge step. and the balls to tell someone straight out, that you don't return their feeling, goes a huge way too. And 'm not sure how I got babbling like this.
But it has been fun, to watch the thread twist and turn. It makes my heart happy to know, that thre are poeple who get the concept that it's about loving someone, and not just lusting, or being in love. Just simply loving that other person. <3 R~
Tash
This message last edited by StarrBecca on 01/12/2009 at 02:48:06 AM
Doesn't anybody stay in love anymore? *NM*
- 30/11/2009 03:36:53 PM
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..well, I mean good for you!
I do. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 03:51:17 PM
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Love is a beast like a snake... feed it once a week or it dies. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 03:55:55 PM
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It is normal to both fall in love and out of love.
- 30/11/2009 03:58:40 PM
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the ebb and flow of society. Sometimes you're on top and sometimes you're not. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 04:11:40 PM
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and sometimes you switch *NM*
- 30/11/2009 04:20:48 PM
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- 30/11/2009 04:20:48 PM
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And sometimes switching frequently helps you stay in love *NM*
- 30/11/2009 06:36:53 PM
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- 30/11/2009 06:36:53 PM
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it at least keeps things interesting 
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- 30/11/2009 07:19:32 PM
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- 30/11/2009 07:19:32 PM
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Let me tell you, ladies... after 10 years even switching gets predictable. *NM*
- 01/12/2009 12:42:00 AM
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- 01/12/2009 12:42:00 AM
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Depends on your definition
- 30/11/2009 04:34:51 PM
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That was inspiring and gave me hope. Thank you. 
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- 30/11/2009 10:04:52 PM
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- 30/11/2009 10:04:52 PM
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Thanks. I know how lucky I am. And I make sure I tell her that too. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 11:52:25 PM
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no but you keep having sex anyways since have no other valid options *NM*
- 30/11/2009 04:35:36 PM
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F-NO! Love is a joke. It is like sea monkeys. Waste of damn time and money.
- 30/11/2009 05:33:27 PM
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/me hugs Monroe!! it's always better to be pissed off than pissed on! *NM*
- 30/11/2009 10:06:29 PM
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- 30/11/2009 10:06:29 PM
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I really like Photo Jim's reply.
- 30/11/2009 06:33:14 PM
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When I originally wrote this , this morning, I was feeling kinda mopey.
- 30/11/2009 10:09:45 PM
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I've been with my husband 10 years - love him more now than ever.
- 30/11/2009 07:03:20 PM
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You're very lucky. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 10:11:18 PM
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- 30/11/2009 10:11:18 PM
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I'll agree we are lucky. But it still takes effort and a willing spirit. *NM*
- 01/12/2009 11:53:35 PM
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Love is just a means to finding a suiteble partner for breeding purposes.
- 30/11/2009 07:56:11 PM
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but what about love between those who have no desire to breed?
- 30/11/2009 08:05:00 PM
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Even if they don't want or can breed subconciosly love is still the same thing. *NM*
- 30/11/2009 08:21:03 PM
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Yeah, but not the same feeling you get when you first meet someone and start a new relationship.
- 01/12/2009 02:19:39 AM
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I wouldlove to see me happy,too.
- 01/12/2009 02:46:18 AM
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