I've gone into bars by myself. I've even gone out to clubs by myself. When people are drinking, they get very nice & friendly. It's easy to meet people. Don't bring a book, that's only going to isolate you. Sit at the bar, have a drink. Then come up to someone - anyone, or even a group of people, and strike up a conversation. The conversation starts with, "Hi, I'm Angie." And then you can say anything at all, the truth works well. "I just turned 21, it's my first time in bar." This will get a response, that's probably all you need. A few times when I was at a bar that had a semi-private party - everyone invited there to celebrate someone's birthday, I might say something like "My friends invited me here, and I can't find them. I think they're standing me up. That's very awkward. Can I hang out with your group for the evening?" Then, once you know one person in a room, it's perfectly appropriate to ask them to introduce you to others. Just keep in mind that people go out to bars to be friendly and socialize, so don't worry about imposing yourself on anyone - that's the very point. If they didn't want to be bothered, they would have stayed home.
I think you are right, as far as I can tell from movies, TV shows and having met Americans. It's perfectly fine there to walk up to someone and say Hi I am...I just wished it worked the same way here, where sadly every group of people stays among themselves and you really get odd looks if you address a stranger just to introduce yourself (laughing together about the waitress dropping a glass of course makes it easier). That goes for pubs and bars at least, clubs and discos not as much.
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You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
Need social advice. Is it... you know... allowed to go to a bar by yourself?
09/11/2009 03:57:51 AM
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If all you want is some place to have a good beer, then don't go to a LGBT bar.
09/11/2009 05:11:08 AM
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I think I can overcome the urge to dance, as long as it won't make me a pariah.
09/11/2009 02:20:46 PM
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Bring a book? *NM*
09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM
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... but which book?
09/11/2009 02:09:29 PM
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You could ask 'teh gay' that you know that lives in the same city as you do.
09/11/2009 02:16:12 PM
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I was being passive. Hoping you would see this and respond.
09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM
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No, I'll reply in full/send noteboard. We can arrange something so you don't go alone.
09/11/2009 02:22:44 PM
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<3
10/11/2009 02:26:04 AM
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Yes, it's allowed.
09/11/2009 02:43:18 PM
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This is why I love the USA
09/11/2009 03:28:52 PM
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"i just turned 21, it's my first time in a bar" sounds like the wrong thing to say somehow...
09/11/2009 04:17:12 PM
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