Did I read this right? Were you saying that you vacation with the parents of the vile ex-husband and that they approve of your brother and not of their son? If they are that good of terms then has your sister-in-law asked them how they would feel about your brother adopting their grandson? As long as they still had access to their grandson they might be okay with it. They might like something in writing though.
See, vile ex is the type who would block the adoption just to be a snit. He has had zero contact with the child for years, but my sister-in-law thinks that the ex would cause trouble for the adoption not out of love for the child, but for trouble's sake.
My husband was the child in that situation. He didn't think that just changing the name was good. He felt that adoption would be the better option.
I agree, I think that adoption is the better bet and the name change should go hand-in-hand with adoption.
~ Missa
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Always remembering Vegas
"Those were the days my friends, we thought they'd never end. We'd sing and dance forever and a day..."
Changing your child's name...
- 02/11/2009 11:07:40 PM
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Is your brother going to actually adopt the child?
- 02/11/2009 11:54:20 PM
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My brother wants to, but...
- 03/11/2009 11:18:20 PM
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Does he pay child support?
- 04/11/2009 12:38:33 AM
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Never paid a dime.
- 04/11/2009 12:44:40 AM
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I'd only change the name if he adopted the son legally.
- 03/11/2009 12:23:08 AM
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I'm more interested in the feelings/needs of the child than the feelings of adults.
- 03/11/2009 01:16:49 AM
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My sister changed her name when she ascended to the Crystal Throne, may she live forever.
- 03/11/2009 02:52:35 AM
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I personally believe the boy should keep his biological fathers last name no matter what *NM*
- 03/11/2009 03:18:24 AM
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Are they changing his name to Clark Kent? If so, I don't think the kid will have a problem. *NM*
- 03/11/2009 04:04:35 AM
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I gave She her dad's last name, we weren't married, had no real intentions of getting married,
- 03/11/2009 05:10:31 AM
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Here are my thoughts (I have been in a somewhat similar situation).
- 03/11/2009 06:52:17 AM
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