I think on several points we had a fruitful discussion, and I found much less to argue with in what you say once you stopped talking about the events of two thousand years ago. Also on the issue of the Palestinians indeed being difficult "guests" in many regards, I can't blame the Jordanians for "Black September" and all that.

The only point I really want to dispute (obviously that doesn't mean I agree with everything else, but agree to disagree at least) is your overgeneralizations about Palestinians. I'd recommend the works of recent Israeli historians like Benny Morris or Avi Shlaim - your "Palestinians WHO DID NOT REFUSE could have lived as full citizens in any part of Israel at any time, and still can" line really doesn't make much sense. The Palestinian refugees, as Morris so aptly analyzed, left for a number of different reasons, often overlapping; many were essentially forced to leave, or directly fleeing war like people do in any conflict, not being given any option to stay put in peace. Some others did get that choice, but obviously they couldn't know beforehand what the consequences of fleeing would be. And often it was really just a mess with conflicting impulses on all sides - the Jewish mayor of Haifa famously cried when his pleas to the Palestinian representatives to have their people stay put proved ineffective, but all throughout that meeting the Haganah's mortars were pounding away at civilian targets to keep the pressure up and the exodus going. And then afterwards, well, once any Palestinian was out of the country, be it voluntarily or involuntarily, returning to live under Israeli rule was never an option.

I don't pretend to have all the answers on how to solve this, and yes, Gaza is a problem what with being non-contiguous to the West Bank and just too tiny and densely populated to be viable on its own. But Egypt doesn't want it and they don't want Egypt. Jordan doesn't want the West Bank, nor does it want them - part of the reason in fact has to do with the points you correctly made about the Palestinians coming dangerously close to hijacking the Jordanian state. The non-Palestinian Jordanians wouldn't risk taking in the West Bank and being instantly outnumbered and outvoted in their own country, any more than Israel would. So yes, I'm willing to listen to alternatives, but I still don't see anything better than a Palestinian state including both the West Bank and Gaza (with some settlements becoming permanently Israeli, with compensations elsewhere).