Re: "Learned" implies there was some experiential process to actually discovering these things.
Lady Mystery Send a noteboard - 08/10/2012 06:53:19 PM
*Having a wife
*Having a fiance
*Having grandchildren (It may be shallow, but it creeps me out.)
*Being too young to legally drink
*Striking up a conversation with the words "Hey, wanna be friends with benefits?" (Look, it's not that I'm necessarily opposed to that kind of arrangement, it just seems to require a friendship to pre-exist. Why not just ask for no strings sex?)
*Asking to have the relationship defined before actually going out on a single date (Can I decide if I like you or not first??)
*Being shorter than me (Once again, it's shallow. But I'm okay with not wanting to date someone on eye level with my breasts.)
*Using the words "bull semen" on the first date. Over dinner.
*Inviting me to move in with you after the third date (That cannot be normal behavior!)
*Giving a postcoital sermon (Look, I'm glad you found Jesus and all, but I wasn't looking for him. Especially here. Yes, I know I called out his name, but that's just cause I couldn't remember yours...)
Most people would not need to find out these are dealbreakers. It's more like one of those truths that would be self-evident. Though the bull semen one could be appropriate in context. *Having a fiance
*Having grandchildren (It may be shallow, but it creeps me out.)
*Being too young to legally drink
*Striking up a conversation with the words "Hey, wanna be friends with benefits?" (Look, it's not that I'm necessarily opposed to that kind of arrangement, it just seems to require a friendship to pre-exist. Why not just ask for no strings sex?)
*Asking to have the relationship defined before actually going out on a single date (Can I decide if I like you or not first??)
*Being shorter than me (Once again, it's shallow. But I'm okay with not wanting to date someone on eye level with my breasts.)
*Using the words "bull semen" on the first date. Over dinner.
*Inviting me to move in with you after the third date (That cannot be normal behavior!)
*Giving a postcoital sermon (Look, I'm glad you found Jesus and all, but I wasn't looking for him. Especially here. Yes, I know I called out his name, but that's just cause I couldn't remember yours...)
Well, I hadn't participated in the dating world for many years, so I'm out of practice. I honestly never knew it would bother me to go out with a guy shorter than me or one who had grandkids until I was there. As for the others, these guys seemed to think it was all perfectly acceptable while I feel otherwise.
*Having served time in prison for assault on a female (That was an important one! How'd I forget that??)
ServED time. He's good now. Paid his debt, whatever. And why specifically mentioning females? Male victims don't rate? Do you think a guy who goes after the bigger and stronger gender is going to be less likely to think of you as easier? Or are you looking for a chivalrous mindset that is at odds with your rather contemporary sexual mores? I gotta tell you, that's going to be rather tricky to find.
I put it that way because that's the way he told me. After we were on a date, and after we were all alone. It's a little disconcerting.
*MySmiley*
NSSP Things I've learned are dealbreakers
- 07/10/2012 08:29:56 PM
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My list is short
- 07/10/2012 11:05:43 PM
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"Learned" implies there was some experiential process to actually discovering these things.
- 08/10/2012 05:06:46 PM
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I doubt she'd worry about the guy's debt to society so much as her own safety.
- 08/10/2012 05:58:57 PM
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Re: "Learned" implies there was some experiential process to actually discovering these things.
- 08/10/2012 06:53:19 PM
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- 08/10/2012 07:06:50 PM
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Re: "Learned" implies there was some experiential process to actually discovering these things.
- 08/10/2012 07:15:55 PM
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I was amused, and trying to compound the amusement. IMO, a humor tag ruins the joke
- 09/10/2012 05:29:13 PM
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my list is very short
- 08/10/2012 05:23:00 PM
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Re: my list is very short
- 08/10/2012 06:56:36 PM
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it is good to have rules
- 09/10/2012 05:36:45 PM
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*NM*