Unwillingly indoctrinating someone into any religion, live or dead, is not acceptable. Ever. And baptism is an opening indoctrination. It's a rite of admission. Well what if you don't want to be admitted? You never did? Too bad! You shouldn't have been died all ignorant like because we just admitted your ass. But you know, you can choose to--wait you're dead. OOPS.

And just having a different opinion is not condescending. Making the presumption that you are right and KNOW BETTER for SOMEONE ELSE is condescending. It's not condescending to go "Hey, I disagree with you and I think I'm right." It's condescending to tell people your religion is better for them. You may not even know them at all!!

it's also condescending to keep trying to discuss it with them when they have clearly shown that they are uninterested.

To use your analogy, it's not condescending to recommend going to a play. It's condescending to arrange someone to go to the play because you think it's good for them. And baptizing people after they're dead is like not telling them there's a play at all.

And if you're baptizing random ass people who never even knew about your religion, I think that's extremely disrespectful towards whatever beliefs they already had. Which, again, is not something you do out of "love". You do it out of presumption that you are right and that everyone needs to be right with you.

Honestly, the only reason I take solace in for this issue is that I believe that we don't live on (at least as our selves) past death. So, luckily, no one actually IS being forced to do anything and they don't have to know anyone's giving them a big old middle finger to their personal choices in life.