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Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 Send a noteboard - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM
but alcohol gets pretty expensive and if you're on a low budget, hard alcohol is a very easy thing to cut from the "free for everyone" list. The whole point IS that "host is cheap". Or, rather, that the hosts are trying to have a cheap wedding. Which you may or may not agree with on principle, however, that is what is being discussed at the moment.

If you're having a small reception/whatever, then I think you should provide hard liquor for everyone. However if you're looking at any group consisting of more than 100 people drinking hard liquor, it's going to get really expensive really fast (here at least) unless you buy cheap liquor (imo, worse than making me pay for it!). Even if you have only a few dozen people drinking hard liquor, if they're trashing themselves out it (like many people do at weddings) then they're going to go through a lot of alcohol!


It depends on who you go through. I recently had a list of some 30+ wedding venues that I called. Bar packages averaged starting at about $8 a person for bottom shelf, $12 for mid and about $18 for top. That being said, someplaces had higher. I believe the place we're going with is like $14 for mid and $20 for top. It all depends on who you go through. Further, you're only charged for those who are old enough to drink. Even if you invite a Two hundred people its gonna be more like paying for 150. Thats a close estimation based off my guest list, but I feel like I don't have many younger people coming at all.

Further, many people are happy with beer and wine packages, someplaces include those, some places have them as low as $4 a person. The biggest thing to do when planning even a cheap wedding is to call around a lot of places and visit. Don't just go in your price range. Head out of it a little.

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So it turns out that weddings are expensive... Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:24:17 PM 1825 Views
I am looking to drop about a grand on my son's rehearsal dinner *NM* random thoughts - 12/12/2011 04:42:53 PM 481 Views
Well, part of it is that the rehearsal dinner isn't on the $5k budget. Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:46:30 PM 818 Views
It is avoidable, but people will treat you like you're a nutcase if you don't do most of the things nossy - 12/12/2011 05:02:14 PM 861 Views
my first wedding was in church with a pretty dress and a preacher random thoughts - 12/12/2011 06:12:02 PM 801 Views
We had a pretty dress and a notary public in the courtyard of the B&B. nossy - 12/12/2011 09:36:52 PM 850 Views
If I had it to all over again I would have formed a Rock Band and dated supermodels *NM* random thoughts - 13/12/2011 04:20:28 PM 447 Views
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Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 05:29:19 PM 945 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:02:44 PM 849 Views
Re: Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 06:44:30 PM 983 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 07:27:16 PM 938 Views
We kept it to about $5000 also (including cost of rings). Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:06:54 PM 863 Views
I would say our wedding was about that. Lici - 12/12/2011 06:45:46 PM 1040 Views
I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM 914 Views
I got married two weeks ago for less than that. Aemon - 12/12/2011 09:56:43 PM 969 Views
Congrats Sareitha Sedai - 12/12/2011 10:03:35 PM 820 Views
Thanks! Aemon - 13/12/2011 02:53:11 PM 820 Views
You've been holding out on us. Congratulations. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 13/12/2011 12:02:39 AM 500 Views
Honestly, I didn't think anyone would care. Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:08:44 PM 795 Views
Hey! No announcement??? Congratulations and may you find many years of happiness! *NM* everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:27:51 AM 526 Views
No, no announcement. I'm not really the center-of-attention type. haha Thanks though! *NM* Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:10:29 PM 450 Views
Congratulations, my friend. Jacob - 13/12/2011 03:21:22 PM 753 Views
Thanks. Aemon - 13/12/2011 06:38:59 PM 866 Views
Acceptable... Jacob - 13/12/2011 06:40:29 PM 785 Views
OMG! Congratulations! Danu - 14/12/2011 10:43:05 PM 802 Views
Thanks Danu. *NM* Aemon - 15/12/2011 11:08:51 PM 452 Views
i had 500 people at my wedding....... Aisha - 13/12/2011 12:05:38 AM 974 Views
Everybody I have ever talked to that had a big, expensive wedding has told me that in hindsight... everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:29:34 AM 764 Views
Yes they are. We're planning ours and... callandor1000 - 13/12/2011 02:19:42 AM 858 Views
Some people just don't seem to think outside of the box ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:15:49 AM 947 Views
And several items on that chart are soo unnecessary *NM* ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:41:10 AM 475 Views
They're only as expensive as you make them. Tim - 14/12/2011 10:38:37 AM 784 Views
I'm so glad we went simple. Kaldric - 14/12/2011 03:08:45 PM 932 Views
As someone who had a smaller wedding than was expected by certain people... Danu - 14/12/2011 10:36:57 PM 902 Views
These seem kind of extreme. Vivien - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM 923 Views
because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM 962 Views
Not my personal history, but culture. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:53:12 PM 917 Views
I agree that there are better cuts to make than refreshments LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:35:13 PM 910 Views
Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM 922 Views
Yeah, and that's why Russians are all dying of alcoholism. *NM* Macharius - 15/12/2011 01:46:52 PM 489 Views
You don't have to be an alcoholic to prefer not to have a cash bar at a party. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:37:15 PM 823 Views
It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM 923 Views
seriously. who cares if people think you're "cheap". LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:41:33 PM 830 Views
What my family tends to do (because it's huge) is this: Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:16:31 PM 975 Views
That's what most German weddings do too. Reasonable. *NM* ironclad - 15/12/2011 03:38:40 PM 445 Views
If they're not close enough to invite to the reception, are they really needed at the ceremony? Vivien - 15/12/2011 08:18:18 PM 931 Views
In most cases, a church ceremony tends to be an open thing. Anyone can come. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 10:11:30 PM 945 Views
Apparently it's becoming more common over here to do weddings on a weekday. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:13:57 PM 818 Views
I can't imagine someone in America announcing their wedding was on a weekday. TaskmasterJack - 15/12/2011 10:07:55 PM 1054 Views
People not in America have way more vacation days... *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:56:22 PM 441 Views
That was part of the logic in my thinking, yes. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 12:46:53 AM 424 Views
Fridays are actually becoming more common. Sareitha Sedai - 16/12/2011 04:51:41 PM 760 Views
Why does the band get more than the photographer? Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 04:30:29 PM 735 Views
well they do have to split it 4 or 5 ways random thoughts - 16/12/2011 04:38:36 PM 822 Views
The thing is... it's NOT a night's work. Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 09:27:30 PM 1122 Views
Because if you put tiny plastic musical instruments on all the tables, your ears will bleed out. TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 10:04:59 PM 1187 Views
My advice based on what I've done so far. callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:27:29 PM 788 Views
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