It's just an annoyed rant! Unlikely she's as insane as the consensus in the thread.
Vivien Send a noteboard - 29/06/2011 09:11:45 PM
Just pay more compliments and attention to her. Look at her, a lot. In an appreciative way, obviously.
My girlfriend is constantly accusing me of checking out other girls wherever we go. I can admit that I will look on occasion, but she has taken the slightest glance in the direction of a person vaguely female to mean that not only am I staring at this person, but that I want to go have crazy monkey sex with this random stranger and she's the only thing holding me back from accomplishing this goal.
If a woman happens to walk in front of us -- like on a sidewalk or at the grocery store, etc -- whether or not I look in her direction I'm already accused of leering at this woman. She's so insistent that this is reality that I've taken to trying to show that I'm not staring by trying to look anywhere else. But this has the extra effect of proving to her that I *am* trying to stare at this woman but now I'm pretending not to and lying about it. In reality, I'm trying to avoid conflict by showing that I am not actually ogling a woman but of course she does not see it that way.
If we go shopping somewhere and I stop to look at a display of DVDs or video games, she says I only stopped to check out "that girl over there". It doesn't matter that I know what I'm looking at, I must have been looking at that girl over there because I obviously have zero interest in movies or video games, despite the fact that I have a decent sized DVD and game collection. We've been together for a few years but we've only recently gotten very serious about our relationship and I am starting to think that she is trying to push me away and this is her way of justifying it to herself. She is 100% sure I am constantly lying to her about this and I can't take it anymore. I'm not sure what to do because I do want to be with her, but she makes it incredibly difficult with the constant accusations.
If a woman happens to walk in front of us -- like on a sidewalk or at the grocery store, etc -- whether or not I look in her direction I'm already accused of leering at this woman. She's so insistent that this is reality that I've taken to trying to show that I'm not staring by trying to look anywhere else. But this has the extra effect of proving to her that I *am* trying to stare at this woman but now I'm pretending not to and lying about it. In reality, I'm trying to avoid conflict by showing that I am not actually ogling a woman but of course she does not see it that way.
If we go shopping somewhere and I stop to look at a display of DVDs or video games, she says I only stopped to check out "that girl over there". It doesn't matter that I know what I'm looking at, I must have been looking at that girl over there because I obviously have zero interest in movies or video games, despite the fact that I have a decent sized DVD and game collection. We've been together for a few years but we've only recently gotten very serious about our relationship and I am starting to think that she is trying to push me away and this is her way of justifying it to herself. She is 100% sure I am constantly lying to her about this and I can't take it anymore. I'm not sure what to do because I do want to be with her, but she makes it incredibly difficult with the constant accusations.
My girlfriend is insane
29/06/2011 03:49:38 PM
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I doubt she's trying to push you away. She's just that needy and insecure.
29/06/2011 03:57:14 PM
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You are too weak. PUA theory says do the total opposite of what common sense tells you
29/06/2011 06:03:09 PM
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Don't apply pua to a long term relationship...
29/06/2011 06:11:36 PM
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Dump her. Tell her you never were interested in others, but now are due to her constant nagging. *NM*
29/06/2011 06:27:59 PM
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"Baby, you were so insistent when I wasn't doing it that I thought you wanted me too!"
29/06/2011 06:32:48 PM
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That sounds so callous. But it is what I would do. I think that someone could get away with calling
29/06/2011 11:51:43 PM
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When someone complains about a gf/bf, when is it not the consensus that the relationship should end?
30/06/2011 12:13:28 AM
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I am glad you called me on that. I was wrong to jump to jump on the "dump her" bandwagon
30/06/2011 03:46:24 AM
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It's just an annoyed rant! Unlikely she's as insane as the consensus in the thread.
29/06/2011 09:11:45 PM
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Ogle her constantly.
29/06/2011 09:21:41 PM
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^ Danny and Vivien potentially have a point.
29/06/2011 11:00:41 PM
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That's right!
30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM
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That's incredibly insecure and needy. Just... just so you know.
30/06/2011 12:10:50 AM
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Having a need isn't the same thing as being needy.
30/06/2011 02:49:12 AM
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Buy sunglasses. *NM*
30/06/2011 12:36:31 AM
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The man with the practical advice out of left field while everyone else is arguing at home base. *NM*
30/06/2011 01:41:12 AM
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Somebody I talked to brought up a valid possibility that I didn't know existed. I was wrong to jump
30/06/2011 03:41:53 AM
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Good point--those things really screw up some women and different ones have different effects *NM*
30/06/2011 01:53:44 PM
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Tell her you're gay so she doesn't need to worry about you seeming to check them out.
30/06/2011 11:30:03 AM
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If you've had the DISCUSSION, and she's still nagging you...I'd find it annoying. *NM*
01/07/2011 05:50:00 AM
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