... like you need to sit down with her in a private place and have a serious heart to heart talk about this. Make sure she understands before it starts that you need a serious talk and that she needs to hear you out. Don't be confrontational or accusational (it might give her an excuse to be the same), but tell her what you told us, the way you told us. Tell her that you love her and that you want to be with her and not with anyone else. Tell her that you can't change the fact that there are other girls in the world, but that she's the only one you care about. Ask her what she thinks you should do when a girl walks in front of you or when there happens to be a girl in your range of vision. If it comes to it, ask her if she would do the same for guys, if she would avoid even innocently glancing at any guy who crosses her line of sight. Ask her what she would think if you accused her of constantly looking at guys who happened to be near her. Tell her that her constant accusations are hurting you and that you need her to be more understanding. If you have to, you can even ask her if she's doing what you suggested here, if she's trying to push you away, tell her that's what it feels like when she does this. Tell her that you trust her, and ask her if she trusts you. If you've been together a long time and she didn't used to do this, ask her what's changed.
If she insists on being crazy about it despite any and all rational attempts to discuss it and to compare what you do to what she does, then man, I don't know. You need trust in a relationship. You need to find out from her why she's doing it, what's going on in her mind, what her reasons are. And a calm, sit-down, rational talk is probably the only way you're going to get that. Until you get what you think is an honest answer from her, it's not safe to assume. Girls are complicated after all. And weird. Definitely weird. :p
On the other ear, try not to let her dismiss your concerns or walk all over you with accusations. But I know that can be tricky when two people have been together for some time. I wish you a lot of luck and good fortune.
If she insists on being crazy about it despite any and all rational attempts to discuss it and to compare what you do to what she does, then man, I don't know. You need trust in a relationship. You need to find out from her why she's doing it, what's going on in her mind, what her reasons are. And a calm, sit-down, rational talk is probably the only way you're going to get that. Until you get what you think is an honest answer from her, it's not safe to assume. Girls are complicated after all. And weird. Definitely weird. :p
On the other ear, try not to let her dismiss your concerns or walk all over you with accusations. But I know that can be tricky when two people have been together for some time. I wish you a lot of luck and good fortune.
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My girlfriend is insane
29/06/2011 03:49:38 PM
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I doubt she's trying to push you away. She's just that needy and insecure.
29/06/2011 03:57:14 PM
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Sounds to me ...
29/06/2011 04:08:07 PM
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You are too weak. PUA theory says do the total opposite of what common sense tells you
29/06/2011 06:03:09 PM
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Don't apply pua to a long term relationship...
29/06/2011 06:11:36 PM
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Dump her. Tell her you never were interested in others, but now are due to her constant nagging. *NM*
29/06/2011 06:27:59 PM
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"Baby, you were so insistent when I wasn't doing it that I thought you wanted me too!"
29/06/2011 06:32:48 PM
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That sounds so callous. But it is what I would do. I think that someone could get away with calling
29/06/2011 11:51:43 PM
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When someone complains about a gf/bf, when is it not the consensus that the relationship should end?
30/06/2011 12:13:28 AM
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I am glad you called me on that. I was wrong to jump to jump on the "dump her" bandwagon
30/06/2011 03:46:24 AM
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It's just an annoyed rant! Unlikely she's as insane as the consensus in the thread.
29/06/2011 09:11:45 PM
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Ogle her constantly.
29/06/2011 09:21:41 PM
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^ Danny and Vivien potentially have a point.
29/06/2011 11:00:41 PM
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That's right!
30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM
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That's incredibly insecure and needy. Just... just so you know.
30/06/2011 12:10:50 AM
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Having a need isn't the same thing as being needy.
30/06/2011 02:49:12 AM
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Buy sunglasses. *NM*
30/06/2011 12:36:31 AM
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The man with the practical advice out of left field while everyone else is arguing at home base. *NM*
30/06/2011 01:41:12 AM
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Somebody I talked to brought up a valid possibility that I didn't know existed. I was wrong to jump
30/06/2011 03:41:53 AM
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Good point--those things really screw up some women and different ones have different effects *NM*
30/06/2011 01:53:44 PM
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Tell her you're gay so she doesn't need to worry about you seeming to check them out.
30/06/2011 11:30:03 AM
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If you've had the DISCUSSION, and she's still nagging you...I'd find it annoying. *NM*
01/07/2011 05:50:00 AM
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