My husband will frequently smack me on the ass playfully, but last night he did it hard, in anger, and because I challenged him. I didn't realize what it was at first because he does do it playfully, but when I turned around I saw the fire in his eyes, and all because I joked around about not wanting him to add something to the dinner I was cooking.
I told him what he did wasn't okay but he didn't apologize. I think we all know the only place it can go from here. The only thing is he hit me on the ass. It's not like I can go to the ER with a black eye. That's my predicament...that I can't prove anything. He's been more and more controlling lately and I'm not easily controlled so we've been butting heads.
It is still hitting, and it is still a big deal, right?
I told him what he did wasn't okay but he didn't apologize. I think we all know the only place it can go from here. The only thing is he hit me on the ass. It's not like I can go to the ER with a black eye. That's my predicament...that I can't prove anything. He's been more and more controlling lately and I'm not easily controlled so we've been butting heads.
It is still hitting, and it is still a big deal, right?
You know this person. We don't. Do you honestly believe you or your children are in danger from this man? If so, get out immediately. But if this hasn't happened before and that line has blurred (since you haven't minded him hitting you in that way in other circumstances), you have to weigh what you want with what's best for your family. I'm not saying what he did was okay, but I don't see it as black and white either. Hopefully you can talk to him about it outside of the moment when you are both calm and he'll be able to hear you then.
If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.
"The trophy problem has become extreme."
"The trophy problem has become extreme."
It's still hitting, right?
- 14/06/2011 10:07:15 PM
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Yes. It's not at all ok, and it is a big deal.
- 14/06/2011 10:41:47 PM
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He shouldn't hit you but don't overreact.
- 15/06/2011 05:00:16 AM
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That all sounds like very good advice.
- 15/06/2011 07:47:06 AM
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Maybe you should start earning a living. *NM*
- 15/06/2011 07:52:39 AM
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Maybe you and Capt. Industry are the last people who should give me time management advice.
- 15/06/2011 08:47:07 AM
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Ah, still hiding behind this name? Not nice of you to crawl out from under your rock, now go back. *NM*
- 16/06/2011 12:06:53 AM
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How upset you get about it is up to you but you really don't need to prove anything
- 15/06/2011 01:55:46 PM
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Is it an event or is it a pattern?
- 15/06/2011 02:12:50 PM
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