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I think they are right ironclad Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM
They've given up on the little, pointless arguments about making the other one do something they have no interest in doing. Of course a relationship also consist of compromises and doing things for each other, as you say. Maybe this just isn't the best example. I am sure he does plenty of things for her he doesn't feel like doing. He said he'd think about coming along, but probably won't. She seems okay with that. I wouldn't find a relationship more healthy if he'd just agreed to tag along but still didn't really feel like it.
To stick to this example, why would couples have to do everything together anyway? She wants to see her mum, let her. He doesn't, so he can stay watch football. I think they handle it well. At least if she doesn't really hold a grudge and as long as there are instances where he does indeed go out of his way to please her.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 1905 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1047 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 1000 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 485 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 960 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 951 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 464 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1180 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1139 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1008 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 933 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1108 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 857 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1086 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1013 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 496 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 471 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 964 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 465 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1028 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1060 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1021 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1031 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1014 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 996 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1116 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1046 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1027 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 469 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 441 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1134 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 428 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1121 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 964 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1001 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1001 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1035 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 959 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1078 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1016 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1232 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1466 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 452 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 925 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1190 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 939 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1013 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 993 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 968 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 983 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 932 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 899 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 957 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 966 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1110 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 917 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 853 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1039 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1241 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1016 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 970 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 932 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1240 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 963 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 989 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 954 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 960 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 429 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1008 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 478 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1074 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 418 Views
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