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I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM
And this is crackpot theory stuff so don't take it to serouisly :)

I was not saying just that women in their forties have trouble finding dates so much as a lot of them have trouble finding men who want to be in serious relationships. Of course a lot of women do find someone but from I have seen and read it is significantly harder for women to find men looking for a relationship then it is for men to find women who wants a relationship. I do admit that most of my evidence in anecdota and most of my theories hairbrained.:P

I also wasn’t suggesting men wouldn’t get married if their girlfriend was giving them sex. I think that idea is a bit old fashioned even for me. For whatever reason in our society committed relationships have more appeal to men than to women. Access to sex makes men more willing to enter committed relationships. If men have easy access to a variety of women who are willing to have sex with them they are going to be less willing to be in relationship. Simple economics, a commodity loses value if it is readily available. This works great for women when they are in their twenties and early thirties when they out having a great time but nature is sexist and gave women an expiration date where reproduction is concerned. Most women still want to be in a committed relationship before they have children and in the battle of the sexes they are being left in a weak position. I have heard women joke that if their vibrator could mow the lawn they wouldn’t need men but that is false bravado. On the other if men can date desperate women who are eager to please as that biological clock keeps ticking louder and louder there is very little incentive to pick just one.
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It is. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 496 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1019 Views

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