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Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM
I don't think that dating outside your culture makes it easier. The more different the culture, the harder it is. Relationships are complicated to begin with. Every way in which it is harder to understand each other and/or communicate with each other, makes the chances of the relationship succeeding smaller.

That doesn't mean it's impossible, but just that you have to work harder.



I can't even say that we come from different cultures. We grew up fully immersed in the same one - NYC. Once again - this is someone I've only met several times, but as far as I can tell, we have very similar beliefs & values. He's the first person I met - never mind date - who likes the same music as I do. I have far more in common with him than people from my own country living here.

If I don't want to go out with him, it's probably for other reasons.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2102 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1059 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1095 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 538 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1087 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1008 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1119 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1133 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1012 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1039 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 547 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 551 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1051 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1171 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1094 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1148 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1005 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1018 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1121 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1214 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1128 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 553 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 989 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 998 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 971 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 988 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1196 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1095 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1019 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1028 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 994 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1051 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 952 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 976 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 981 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1033 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1036 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 969 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1005 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1164 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1023 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 530 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 956 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1000 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1122 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1018 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1001 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1129 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1083 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 512 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1036 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1116 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1158 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1035 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 544 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 549 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1071 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1000 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 544 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 959 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1062 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 509 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 414 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 997 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1101 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1086 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 994 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1003 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1060 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 545 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 521 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1055 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1084 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 940 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 502 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1026 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 908 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 892 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 948 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1045 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1017 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1048 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 980 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 996 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1020 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1003 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 544 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1007 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1065 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 969 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 871 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 901 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 996 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1019 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1067 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1047 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 482 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 990 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 971 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1027 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1010 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 953 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 858 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 811 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 596 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 503 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 524 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1052 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1065 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 514 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1137 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1057 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1153 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1033 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1064 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 509 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 537 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 499 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 524 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 948 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1142 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 530 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 579 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 493 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 431 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 612 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1005 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 529 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 546 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1005 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1116 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1061 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 497 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1024 Views
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