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Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM
Sorry, just felt like it. ;)


You are always welcome ;)

There is a difference between preserving race/ethnicity out of respect and honor (as even some people I know have done) and refusing to mix with others out of fear, bigotry or an excessive level of pride. Both options (preserving ethnicity/race AND interracial relationships) have issues when one starts to believe only in black and white (har) absolutes.


I know that, and I practice the former version, and it sounds like the original poster's concerns are based somewhat on the former version as well. But Tom didn't distinguish, which led me to believe he was referring to all forms of preservation when he said they had no place in society.

On one hand, Aeryn is being conscientious about an existing issue, but I think she'd be going too far if she tried to create a situation to stop this particular man dating a white person because he should be dating a black girl.


Right. Even if she was concerned about preservation issues, she can only control her own behavior, not anyone elses.
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