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It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable. Helene Send a noteboard - 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM
E.g. your post about reading books in 4 different languages, and then asking others who if they know which books they are and if they'll read them too, or would be interested in reading them...

Hardly anyone here speaks that many languages. Yes, there are people who do, but most people don't. This alienates people, as hardly anyone likes it when they are clearly being excluded. So they dislike you, or at least aren't attracted to you as someone they would become friends with.

You make it a habit to post things that excludes the majority of people. This means that either you are posting in the wrong place (e.g. post these things where the majority speaks 4 languages), or you are posting the wrong things.

What is it that you want from here? If you want friends, then you would be better served in paying attention to what qualities in you would make you attractive as a friend. If you want people's admiration, then you'd be better served if you showed you were knowledgeable/wise without showing off quite so much.
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Things that I have learned and noticed over 11 years Larry - 16/03/2011 11:07:50 PM 1465 Views
Most of the personal sharing you describe I've shifted over to my Facebook activity. TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 12:12:34 AM 718 Views
There is that, yes Larry - 17/03/2011 12:24:14 AM 772 Views
I only use it to keep up with family and share pictures random thoughts - 17/03/2011 04:22:54 AM 667 Views
Facebook; that's that one app for Farmville, right? Joel - 17/03/2011 01:05:58 AM 772 Views
You are getting older, that's all Druid - 17/03/2011 01:12:14 AM 844 Views
Netscape turns 18 next year.... Joel - 17/03/2011 01:21:40 AM 706 Views
It will never catch on! Druid - 17/03/2011 01:32:00 AM 735 Views
Re: It will never catch on! TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 01:52:12 AM 683 Views
It's not that I don't still love the Illuminati BBS, a man just needs a little variety sometimes. Joel - 17/03/2011 03:30:55 AM 786 Views
joel, you're about to get married, no leering at other browsers for you! *NM* moondog - 17/03/2011 04:34:35 AM 352 Views
It's cool; we have an open source marriage. Joel - 17/03/2011 05:29:37 PM 714 Views
Re: You are getting older, that's all TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 01:53:28 AM 716 Views
Agreed...but Druid - 17/03/2011 03:15:42 AM 901 Views
Re: Agreed...but TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 11:30:42 PM 741 Views
What's odd is that I've become happier and more content in recent years Larry - 17/03/2011 02:28:14 AM 921 Views
Familiarity breeds contempt. Joel - 17/03/2011 01:14:03 AM 877 Views
Thanks Larry - 18/03/2011 09:48:49 PM 836 Views
Books: Always finding new ways to enrich peoples lives. Joel - 22/03/2011 10:51:53 PM 847 Views
Since we first met a few things have happened. Avendesora - 17/03/2011 02:06:40 AM 916 Views
Nah, you're not alone. Michael - 17/03/2011 08:47:43 AM 680 Views
Yeah, but you started out with boobs. TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 11:32:00 PM 736 Views
There is that, yes Larry - 18/03/2011 09:46:44 PM 838 Views
remember all that time we spent on the phone? sometimes i miss stuff like that temeraire - 17/03/2011 05:34:08 AM 693 Views
There are nights where I crash by 7 PM these days Larry - 18/03/2011 09:38:39 PM 802 Views
Even I have gotten tired of the politics. Ghavrel - 17/03/2011 06:17:23 AM 748 Views
My view on politics has changed quite a bit in the past few years Larry - 18/03/2011 09:40:31 PM 850 Views
Mine hasn't, really, but my opinion of repeating my positions endlessly has. Ghavrel - 18/03/2011 11:14:39 PM 728 Views
There is that, yes Larry - 19/03/2011 01:48:39 PM 813 Views
Things I've learned.. @my - 17/03/2011 02:17:46 PM 670 Views
There is wisdom in that Larry - 18/03/2011 09:54:10 PM 744 Views
Or. I could be that that some people (coughmecough) @my - 22/03/2011 05:55:50 PM 717 Views
I stopped trying to be funny when I realized I wasn't, and that I can't take a joke. Macharius - 17/03/2011 03:19:56 PM 689 Views
nUUUUUUUUUUUd *NM* TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 11:32:57 PM 333 Views
Well, you could just be silly instead Larry - 18/03/2011 09:52:46 PM 691 Views
Alas, I am not a resident of Camelot. *NM* Macharius - 19/03/2011 08:16:59 PM 339 Views
'Tis a silly place. Larry - 21/03/2011 10:26:49 PM 596 Views
Don't feel to bad alliandrina - 17/03/2011 04:27:15 PM 747 Views
Ha! Larry - 18/03/2011 09:51:19 PM 636 Views
I think part of the problem is people are simply not posting fun stuff any more random thoughts - 17/03/2011 05:03:52 PM 654 Views
Chat was definitely better than the MB for building personal relationships. TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 11:34:49 PM 623 Views
Some of the conversations I have on FB are like chat with really bad lag. *NM* Avendesora - 18/03/2011 01:03:21 AM 349 Views
"FB" and "chat with really bad lag" just naturally go together. Joel - 18/03/2011 04:36:23 PM 756 Views
I think that's near, if not at, the heart of all this Larry - 18/03/2011 09:50:37 PM 686 Views
My problem is I just like to argue random thoughts - 18/03/2011 10:12:03 PM 712 Views
I don't think you like me. rebelaessedai - 18/03/2011 06:27:45 AM 808 Views
So ignore him. I like you. Ghavrel - 18/03/2011 07:32:47 AM 761 Views
rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:43:55 AM 704 Views
Yeah, if you've been avoiding me over an internet fight, you really do. Ghavrel - 19/03/2011 08:56:03 AM 620 Views
What can I say, I have issues. rebelaessedai - 20/03/2011 04:21:12 AM 766 Views
I like you. Lady Mystery - 18/03/2011 01:10:16 PM 750 Views
*splutters* rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:45:03 AM 649 Views
*giggles* Lady Mystery - 21/03/2011 01:10:21 AM 1103 Views
random thoughts is yours? Talk about your unlikely pairings.... Joel - 18/03/2011 04:32:17 PM 774 Views
Re: random thoughts is yours? Talk about your unlikely pairings.... rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:46:59 AM 724 Views
Skype is your friend. Joel - 22/03/2011 10:47:41 PM 830 Views
Really? Larry - 18/03/2011 08:41:35 PM 941 Views
Really. rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:41:46 AM 797 Views
Larry - 19/03/2011 01:49:30 PM 715 Views
It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable. Helene - 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM 867 Views
I always took those posts as attempts to include people. Joel - 18/03/2011 05:33:55 PM 773 Views
That's a very positive outlook, which perhaps is shared by others *NM* Helene - 18/03/2011 09:13:43 PM 256 Views
Hope so; try thinking in terms of what fantasy used to be like. Joel - 22/03/2011 11:19:36 PM 816 Views
10-11 years ago, I might have thought I was a major part of this site. Uncertain of that now, Larry - 18/03/2011 09:36:26 PM 774 Views
Offering a perspective. Helene - 18/03/2011 10:03:58 PM 705 Views
Re: Offering a perspective. Larry - 19/03/2011 01:46:06 PM 840 Views
The answer my friend, is blowin' in the wind Bad Ash - 19/03/2011 04:19:10 AM 754 Views
Tangled up in blues Larry - 19/03/2011 01:50:52 PM 1018 Views
I haven't changed at all. Jacob - 22/03/2011 01:44:12 PM 785 Views
Re: I haven't changed at all. TaskmasterJack - 22/03/2011 11:37:47 PM 661 Views
You just only propagated, that's all Larry - 23/03/2011 12:33:20 AM 650 Views
Lady Mystery - 23/03/2011 01:15:01 AM 711 Views
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