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It sounds like the man may have some OCD cleaning problems as well. Macharius Send a noteboard - 29/10/2010 04:13:28 PM
That he comes over while his son is gone doesn't sound so much like co-dependency (if that were the case, I suspect dad would come over while son was home). Or maybe the two are tied together in some way, since it sounds like he doesn't clean your areas of the house/apartment.

Moving forward, could you suggest that his father wean himself off the habit? Instead of coming over every/other day, try to keep it to once a week, then every other week, once a month, etc. I think it would be better to work with dad, get him to admit he has a problem, and work with it pro-actively. Basically, wean dad off his habit. Suggesting professional help might be a good idea as well, since when confronted with it he seems to at least recognize that there's something not right with how things are now even if he can't control it.

I'd say that asking for the key back would only be a last-case scenario, to be done after the above.
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Does anyone understand co-dependency? - 29/10/2010 03:59:52 PM 855 Views
That's almost.... creepy. - 29/10/2010 04:12:50 PM 581 Views
Almost? - 29/10/2010 04:45:41 PM 584 Views
It sounds like the man may have some OCD cleaning problems as well. - 29/10/2010 04:13:28 PM 592 Views
I definitely think so. - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM 580 Views
Re: I definitely think so. - 29/10/2010 06:17:51 PM 582 Views
I dunno. - 29/10/2010 04:26:19 PM 643 Views
Re: I dunno. - 29/10/2010 05:11:59 PM 619 Views
I don't think it's offensive. - 29/10/2010 05:19:03 PM 586 Views
well..even if it isn't offensive by nature, his dad will probably still be offended - 29/10/2010 05:25:54 PM 583 Views
Of course he will. - 29/10/2010 05:37:08 PM 594 Views
Um... I disagree with "what he's gettingout of it". - 30/10/2010 12:48:56 PM 570 Views
and if one wants a father, rather than a free maid? - 30/10/2010 03:00:03 PM 634 Views
He can make sure the place is clean before the father shows up. - 30/10/2010 03:25:40 PM 583 Views
I honestly think - 29/10/2010 05:12:09 PM 581 Views
I'd also say just take the key, but that's just me. - 29/10/2010 05:16:17 PM 564 Views
Why does he have a key? - 29/10/2010 05:23:50 PM 520 Views
Does he do the dishes and clean the bathrooms? - 29/10/2010 06:54:07 PM 565 Views
Tell your roomate to sh*t or get off the pot - 29/10/2010 07:37:35 PM 564 Views
that sounds, er, nice and all - 30/10/2010 03:07:06 PM 638 Views
sorry, but it sounds like the time for "niceness" has long passed - 30/10/2010 07:28:56 PM 642 Views
Give him my address and everyone wins. - 30/10/2010 10:25:30 AM 601 Views
I totally agree with Ave... - 30/10/2010 11:52:08 PM 632 Views

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