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Okay my response now Roland00 Send a noteboard - 14/10/2010 06:04:02 PM
Bullying itself doesn't lead to suicide, yet it is very much a factor in suicide. What is the real cause of suicide is not pain in itself, but the thought that the pain is eternal and their is no hope, and you would do anything to make it stop.

In addition in my mind it isn't the conflict of being gay or being different that causes people to commit suicide. Nor is it the family conflict. A couple of those 5 people I listed were already out before committing suicide, yet the committed suicide even if they accepted the fact they were gay.

What causes people to commit suicide is that their lives are miserable, always has been, and the feel it always will be miserable. Bullying by itself isn't the cause of suicide, it is just something that escalates the situation, it is the kerosene thrown on the fire. There is a difference from having an awful life and having a one that is miserable, their is a difference from suffering pain and suffering misery. Some people here may not understand this but people that have suffered depression or have attempted suicide definitely know what I am talking about.

The fact that a couple of those boys have come out as gay and then years later committed suicide illustrates this point. To them they have already accepted they were gay, accepted they weren't going to change that fact, it was going to be forever. And if being gay means being in pain, and if gay is forever, then it follows to that depressed person mind that pain is forever, misery is forever, and there is no hope, no joy in the world.

And that is why Dan Savage project hopefully will make a difference. Life can get better, in addition you can change how you feel pain, pain doesn't have to equal misery. The fact you can change how you experience pain though will probably not work on changing a teenage mind though, it has to be experienced and it is a process that takes years.

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One of the reason that children rarely commit suicide when compared to adults is that their sense of death, personhood and time is completely different than a teenager, completely different than an adult.
This message last edited by Roland00 on 14/10/2010 at 06:06:23 PM
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Love the Sinner - 13/10/2010 04:07:28 PM 1183 Views
I have to think about that for a while. - 13/10/2010 04:30:56 PM 715 Views
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That is not what I think requires thought - 13/10/2010 05:56:06 PM 658 Views
Nossy I ain't a mind reader, no matter how I try or how much I would do Jean Grey - 13/10/2010 06:06:42 PM 789 Views
for ze record - 14/10/2010 02:54:07 AM 679 Views
ok now show that it caused by what Christian beliefs *NM* - 13/10/2010 06:50:32 PM 341 Views
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The churches who encourage people to bully gays should be condemned - 14/10/2010 06:43:06 PM 690 Views
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and sometoimes they are just rants *NM* - 13/10/2010 10:01:55 PM 282 Views
Okay my response now - 14/10/2010 06:04:02 PM 736 Views
He becomes what he hates. - 14/10/2010 02:40:19 AM 861 Views
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If I may quibble: - 14/10/2010 05:22:22 AM 541 Views
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