The weak and wimpy is part of the negative connotation, the association that just because a man is queer he is likely weak and effeminate, he is unmanly. It's part and parcel with the insult.



Words do tend to lose their meaning to those who aren't targeted by them. As a queer man my ears perk up every time I hear someone call someone else a faggot, a queer, a fairy. In person, I have the opportunity to listen to the context and decide how to react to that particular situation. Cunt definitely hasn't lost its meaning over here.



I'm not emotionally involved in her or this situation, so there's no need to move on for me. I do think she needs to look inside to decide where that came from. If it came from a place that denigrates another person for being different, that's something she should look into changing.

Looking at her apology, she doesn't explain where she came from with it. All she does is say that it was out of character and that she isn't homophobic. If it's not a slur against queer folk, and is only a meaningless insult, then she should say that was how she meant it. The way she's defending herself implies, to me, that she does need to look inside.