Not bothering me, and since UI'm the only person that matters here, you should be OK. You still have a ways to go before you set a new standard for pouring your anguish out on the CMB (really. ' />) Um. I understand, at least as much as possible given the novelty of women. I certainly understand what it's like to NOT be in a relationship for much longer than preferred. As to suggestions... um.... ' />

It was always about the relationship rather than the sex for me, and twisted me in knots. Only really know one solution, but you know what I'd say and I know you know, and, anyway, it took fifteen years to accept that answer and nearly five more to LIVE it, so the argument seems a bit odd coming from me. Not that problem solving is the right motivation there, but remember: It's OK to WANT another human in your life, but if people actually NEED someone else in their life, it's not a human being (which means no spooning; believe me, that part I get. )

How to deal with/understand women... when you figure it out, please share it with the rest of us. I'm pullin' for ya, and prayin' for ya, and thanks for the update (these days I don't get to respond as promptly as I'd like, but I DO keep my eyes open whether or not my mouth follows suit. ) It will get better; COMPLETE solitude is clearly not our cup of tea, but your wounds are also still very fresh, and a little time and healing should help a lot.

Try not to overanalyze this particular girl too much, but maintain communications (which you probably already know to do) and just be as patient as you can. Talking about the stuff with people who care is healthy, as long as it doesn't become obsessive (which it doesn't seem to be. ) You get perspectives you otherwise wouldn't, sometimes just by the process of articulating and expressing what you're feeling instead of just feeling it. And remember that a lot of us DO care. You're a sharp guy with a good heart and instincts, IMHO, so while you may not get there as quickly as you like, I'm confident you'll get there in the end. If this is the girl for you, then nothing on Earth can stop it; if not, best to find out sooner rather than later so there's no one in the way when the right one comes along at last.