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Re: You're still wrong. MalkierKnight Send a noteboard - 12/08/2010 09:58:26 PM
As Sareitha points out, I am firmly of the opinion that the State should provide for the marriage of all consenting adults of all orientations.

I am also firmly of the opinion that the State should keep its legislation out of private institutions - homes, churches, clubs, etc - unless what is happening there causes harm to people or their property.

My church will not marry (perform the ceremony for) people who are not members of the church. My church will not marry a Christian to a non-Christian (my husband is an athiest; we got married in the state church of England but I go to a Free Church of Scotland congregation). And my church will not perform weddings for homosexuals. All of those things are based on our reading of the Bible.

BUT: let me reiterate: I believe the State has a duty to provide marriage for all consenting adults of all orientations. Just the State should not force churches to perform those marriages which do not agree with their doctrine.

Is that clear enough for you?


Maybe it's because I'm not clear enough. I believe that IN ADDITION to having a secular, state oriented marriage for all consenting adults, private institutions like churches ought not be allowed to ban gay marriage.

It seems like you're not from the US so my points may not apply, but this post was directed at America. There are clear legal grounds for government interfering with private institutions. If there weren't, we'd still have segregation.

My point is that banning gay marriage on a religious level amounts to discrimination because gay marriage does not alter the essence of a religion.


The Supreme Court recently ruled that private institutions are allowed to discriminate on who they allow to be members. The case was about the Boy Scouts kicking out a gay man. The court decided that as a private institution, they have a right based on the right to freedom of association to decide with whom they will associate. They don't want to associate with queer folks, so they don't have to do so.

The same obviously applies to churches.


I don't know the circumstances of that case nor do I know the background. I've heard a lot of supreme court cases misinterpreted on this site and others, so if you don't mind I'd like you to give me the name of that case.

Also, Brown v. Board of Education pretty clearly stated that discrimination of certain brands was not permitted.

Whether or not discrimination is permitted on this level in churches is at question. I believe it is not because gay marriage does nothing to alter the essence of christianity.


Look at the link below. It clearly lays out the fact that the Boy Scout's first amendment right to freedom of association trumped the State's decision to force them to accept an openly homosexual troop leader.

Brown v. BoE limited the discrimination public entities could engage in and did away with the doctrine of separate but equal. It did not have an effect on private entities. Public schools were desegregated. Public pools were desegregated. Public busses and trains had their seats integrated.

Private companies, truly private companies that did not accept any public money, could continue to do as they pleased. And they did.

Whatever your beliefs on the essence of christianity, they don't matter. Each church is a private organization that is free to define themselves. If they accept public money for something, to provide a service, then they must follow public policies in doing so, but as for their membership and the rights and rituals they perform within themselves, the government has no business telling them what to do.

Let's take another example. It is known that smoking cigarettes leads to lung, and other cancers. Many state and local governments have therefore banned smoking tobacco products in public areas for the public's safety. They have not banned smoking in private clubs, where members know that smoking is allowed. They have not banned smoking in private homes, where the owner/renter/individual makes the choice.

Do you see the parallel?


It's also illegal to refuse to seat someone at a restaurant because they're black. It's illegal to only hire men (unless the job requires a man). It's illegal to only accept white kids into a college.

While brown v board did pertain to public facilities. The Civil Rights Act pertained to much more.

My mistake for using Brown v. Board as an example.
You must unlearn what you have learned.
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Gay Marriage - 12/08/2010 10:23:19 AM 1835 Views
I disagree on the latter part - 12/08/2010 12:04:15 PM 1211 Views
I follow your point... - 12/08/2010 12:14:17 PM 1193 Views
Suspect you would find plenty of denominations that would argue with you rather strenuously. - 12/08/2010 12:24:55 PM 1190 Views
See, that's what I'm saying... - 12/08/2010 07:37:26 PM 1154 Views
She didn't say that gays ought not be married. - 12/08/2010 07:45:37 PM 1012 Views
You didn't read my post. - 12/08/2010 09:10:21 PM 1067 Views
Actually, you didn't read my post - 12/08/2010 09:23:54 PM 1107 Views
Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:37:13 PM 1117 Views
Re: Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:44:17 PM 1074 Views
You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:54:55 PM 1210 Views
Re: You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:58:26 PM 1067 Views
Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:04:42 PM 1115 Views
Re: Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:17:13 PM 964 Views
Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:30:52 PM 1212 Views
My clubs are cooler than yours. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:35:13 PM 578 Views
I play golf with mine. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:43:01 PM 589 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:40:55 PM 1119 Views
Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:44:12 PM 1134 Views
Also also: - 12/08/2010 10:46:05 PM 1143 Views
Re: Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:49:44 PM 1047 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:47:20 PM 1153 Views
I don't think he means that kind of club. - 12/08/2010 10:31:41 PM 1027 Views
Also - 12/08/2010 10:02:44 PM 1162 Views
And wrong again. - 12/08/2010 10:08:24 PM 1184 Views
Not so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:21:31 PM 1020 Views
Yes, so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:32:13 PM 967 Views
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Why do you get to judge? - 12/08/2010 10:48:57 PM 1105 Views
I don't - 12/08/2010 10:53:21 PM 998 Views
OK. - 12/08/2010 10:58:22 PM 1112 Views
Re: OK. - 12/08/2010 11:03:50 PM 1042 Views
Then please stop. - 12/08/2010 11:01:05 PM 1081 Views
What's wrong with discussion? - 12/08/2010 11:05:48 PM 1019 Views
Discussion? Nothing. Your assertions about other people's views, something. - 12/08/2010 11:09:48 PM 1048 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:13:46 PM 1079 Views
Yes. That is incorrect. - 12/08/2010 11:18:05 PM 1040 Views
What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:12:54 PM 921 Views
Re: What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:23:36 PM 1066 Views
Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:36:48 PM 1023 Views
Re: Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:46:22 PM 1138 Views
Apparently you do believe that you are more qualified - 12/08/2010 10:57:00 PM 1011 Views
You are wrong - 12/08/2010 11:11:37 PM 859 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:19:10 PM 948 Views
Not entirely true either... or, well, true as far as Brown goes. - 12/08/2010 10:08:42 PM 1032 Views
Heh... we discuss restaurants a post or two over there.. ---> - 12/08/2010 10:10:26 PM 1127 Views
Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:38:33 PM 1105 Views
Re: Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:55:05 PM 1039 Views
Gah. - 12/08/2010 09:59:45 PM 990 Views
Yes yes yes. It was ungracious. I got bored. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:03:17 PM 541 Views
What a mature response. - 12/08/2010 10:11:00 PM 1173 Views
Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:21:38 PM 1113 Views
Re: Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:35:51 PM 1057 Views
I can't speak for Rebekah, but I don't think the issue is that your points are invalid per se. - 12/08/2010 10:22:30 PM 1012 Views
I think my point was unclear in that post - 12/08/2010 10:55:34 PM 1084 Views
It seems that by your (to me nebulous) definition - 12/08/2010 11:05:01 PM 1086 Views
Re: I think my point was unclear in that post - 13/08/2010 10:58:28 AM 991 Views
+1 - 13/08/2010 09:16:24 AM 878 Views
Hehe - 13/08/2010 10:46:25 AM 931 Views
Um - 12/08/2010 09:46:43 PM 1139 Views
That's a very good question. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:49:05 PM 532 Views
So good it doesn't even need an answer, apparently *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:26:41 PM 574 Views
So good I responded to it someplace else. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:56:05 PM 468 Views
It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 04:29:24 PM 975 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:39:25 PM 1054 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:41:02 PM 1130 Views
It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:25:44 PM 1083 Views
Re: It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:28:45 PM 1052 Views
Nonsense - 12/08/2010 09:35:25 PM 1005 Views
Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:08:53 PM 970 Views
Re: Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:42:21 PM 1084 Views
Suspect you've not read that either. - 12/08/2010 09:43:32 PM 1015 Views
What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 12/08/2010 09:45:33 PM 1138 Views
Infant baptism, obviously. - 12/08/2010 09:51:48 PM 1130 Views
*NM* - 12/08/2010 09:53:17 PM 378 Views
*groan* I forgot that one! - 12/08/2010 10:09:07 PM 1084 Views
Re: What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 13/08/2010 11:04:02 AM 1074 Views
Wow, it's almost like an entire denomination believes that! *NM* - 13/08/2010 03:41:07 PM 517 Views
really? - 13/08/2010 03:42:42 PM 950 Views
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Yeah, that's the Roman Catholic basis against masturbation and contraception. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:12:00 PM 516 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:22:58 PM 927 Views
Which is interesting - 13/08/2010 04:28:09 PM 913 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:29:25 PM 896 Views
Original poster. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:32:18 PM 570 Views
- 13/08/2010 04:34:30 PM 923 Views
Dude....please at least have a working knowledge of the Bible before you spout off. - 12/08/2010 10:47:13 PM 960 Views
I like the part in 1 Corinthians (is it chapter 6?) - 12/08/2010 10:49:55 PM 856 Views
Ya know?!? - 12/08/2010 10:55:27 PM 967 Views
I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 04:33:02 PM 1074 Views
Re: I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 07:40:16 PM 1086 Views
There is a difference... - 12/08/2010 09:02:20 PM 1120 Views
No you don't. - 12/08/2010 09:16:52 PM 1101 Views
That's another concern - 12/08/2010 12:39:53 PM 1163 Views
Not quite my point - 12/08/2010 09:19:50 PM 1026 Views
secular marriage is decoupled from religious marriage - 12/08/2010 02:50:43 PM 1151 Views
Simple, require the legal and religious marriage to be performed separately. - 12/08/2010 02:58:43 PM 987 Views
What in the world would that accomplish? - 12/08/2010 03:44:32 PM 1070 Views
Provide some much-needed clarity, evidently. - 12/08/2010 03:49:33 PM 920 Views
the problem is it would be changing a centuries old tradition.. - 12/08/2010 04:26:47 PM 932 Views
heheheheheheheHAHAHAHEHEHehehehehahheeh*cough* - 12/08/2010 04:55:09 PM 941 Views
thats OK I am sure you will get over it - 12/08/2010 05:22:08 PM 977 Views
Just guessing, but I think it was the "centuries old tradition" that set off the giggle fit. - 12/08/2010 07:25:38 PM 1099 Views
Really? I was hoping for something better - 12/08/2010 10:06:00 PM 1031 Views
So government recognition makes your religion meaningful? - 12/08/2010 10:11:54 PM 1117 Views
not my religion I'm agnostic - 12/08/2010 10:34:40 PM 980 Views
OK, but the point remains the same. - 12/08/2010 10:51:59 PM 1093 Views
Of course it would - 12/08/2010 11:10:03 PM 1165 Views
I'm not far left, thank you very much. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:20:31 PM 588 Views
no but your are European and that slants your views *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:36:01 PM 579 Views
Sure, but in this case it has little to do with left or right. - 12/08/2010 10:40:42 PM 1036 Views
that is what I said when I metioned you were European *NM* - 12/08/2010 11:11:31 PM 580 Views
Simples - 12/08/2010 09:30:31 PM 1061 Views
there are about 140 post ranging from boyscouts to infant babtism - 12/08/2010 10:57:46 PM 1059 Views
So. - 14/08/2010 01:27:59 AM 898 Views
sorry I responded I forgot what a tool you are. my bad - 14/08/2010 02:48:57 AM 1416 Views
Agreed *NM* - 12/08/2010 03:45:04 PM 466 Views
I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:02:15 PM 860 Views
Re: I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:04:10 PM 1049 Views
Is there an all above option? *NM* - 12/08/2010 04:23:24 PM 621 Views
Naturally. - 12/08/2010 04:25:14 PM 1039 Views
I know I do *NM* - 12/08/2010 05:17:35 PM 545 Views
Another thing - 12/08/2010 07:42:21 PM 1126 Views
A couple of things - 12/08/2010 12:58:09 PM 1029 Views
I disagree - 12/08/2010 07:47:26 PM 1150 Views
Well, you're within your rights to certainly - 12/08/2010 08:24:30 PM 1124 Views
there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 03:31:45 PM 1165 Views
Re: there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 04:01:32 PM 1050 Views
I should clarify that I support gay marriage - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM 986 Views
One point about Prop. 8 - 12/08/2010 07:38:55 PM 1029 Views
I know that is the commonl;y held belief but I thinkit is wrong - 12/08/2010 10:32:58 PM 951 Views
Religious institutions, though, pushed hard to pass it. - 12/08/2010 10:42:33 PM 1037 Views
there are major flaws in your argument - 12/08/2010 07:51:52 PM 1128 Views
Women can't be priests in the Catholic church. - 12/08/2010 08:00:24 PM 809 Views
Hehe. You beat me by 6 seconds. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:03:28 PM 496 Views
Great minds and all. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:06:01 PM 501 Views
I was writing a reply to this post... - 12/08/2010 03:51:01 PM 1053 Views
I feel your pain *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:52:28 PM 580 Views
Forcing religious institutions to marry gay couples is hideously unconstitutional. - 12/08/2010 04:18:59 PM 1076 Views
100% agreed. - 12/08/2010 05:05:35 PM 1133 Views
This. *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:36:57 PM 424 Views
You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 07:57:19 PM 1072 Views
By that token - 12/08/2010 08:00:30 PM 952 Views
My God.... - 12/08/2010 09:49:18 PM 1019 Views
no You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 10:08:57 PM 959 Views
Well, that was horrifyingly stupid. - 13/08/2010 12:57:46 AM 1043 Views
I am a Christian who wholeheartedly supports Gay Marriage. - 12/08/2010 06:49:28 PM 1156 Views
Fair enough. - 12/08/2010 08:01:37 PM 1088 Views
Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 07:11:15 PM 986 Views
Because "homophobic", like "xenophobic", has shifted a bit in meaning... - 12/08/2010 07:33:56 PM 1068 Views
So then.... - 12/08/2010 07:39:24 PM 994 Views
Well, strongly anti-gay, yes. - 12/08/2010 07:43:40 PM 844 Views
Homophobic is generally "anti-gay" or "anti-queer"... - 12/08/2010 07:46:22 PM 1147 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 08:04:24 PM 1139 Views
+1 - 12/08/2010 08:06:19 PM 1177 Views
Stop with the pile on Camilla. - 12/08/2010 09:22:35 PM 1105 Views
You would have said nothing if I had just said "agreed" - 12/08/2010 09:27:33 PM 927 Views
Which speaks highly of you.... - 12/08/2010 09:36:30 PM 1106 Views
This is being very petty. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:41:26 PM 551 Views
As opposed to a snarky +1 comment? *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:45:02 PM 570 Views
It's not snarky. - 12/08/2010 09:47:47 PM 1043 Views
Its a +1 shorthand comment... - 12/08/2010 09:52:04 PM 1332 Views
Wow. Those two characters allowed you to read Camilla's motivations? - 12/08/2010 09:54:25 PM 959 Views
*shrug* - 12/08/2010 09:58:42 PM 1167 Views
Yes, I am terribly selfish - 13/08/2010 09:10:54 AM 947 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:13:07 PM 1138 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:26:41 PM 1048 Views
LOL - 12/08/2010 09:42:32 PM 1018 Views
Re: LOL - 13/08/2010 09:12:29 AM 966 Views
you are exactly why the state needs to make a clear seperation between the secular and religious - 12/08/2010 09:33:22 PM 1017 Views
Ok, so if the state does then... - 12/08/2010 09:44:31 PM 957 Views
No, marriage started because of property. - 12/08/2010 09:59:14 PM 1054 Views
So then two things come to mind... - 12/08/2010 10:04:39 PM 1031 Views
Only two? - 12/08/2010 10:27:08 PM 1028 Views
Is this the same guy... - 12/08/2010 10:43:02 PM 941 Views
I thought the cow died in an accident, but yes... that guy. - 12/08/2010 10:58:46 PM 1012 Views
That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:19:32 PM 1188 Views
Re: That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:30:14 PM 1056 Views
Oh, I hope not - 13/08/2010 04:19:47 PM 1053 Views
I may be wrong - 13/08/2010 04:24:28 PM 1008 Views
Property isn't just agricultural. - 13/08/2010 06:11:12 PM 939 Views
True enough - 16/08/2010 03:12:31 PM 1252 Views
yes but about half of the old testament deals with protecting those rights - 13/08/2010 05:16:09 PM 1016 Views
The relationship between religion and rain go even farther back... - 13/08/2010 06:15:32 PM 1003 Views
to me it is a beside the point when it comes to the law - 13/08/2010 06:25:50 PM 1030 Views
moot, not mute - 13/08/2010 08:48:04 PM 1252 Views
damn - 13/08/2010 08:52:23 PM 1097 Views
Actually, I agree with that - 12/08/2010 10:01:37 PM 905 Views
See, now this, I could deal with.... - 12/08/2010 10:06:15 PM 902 Views
So is it that you are hung up on the name then? - 13/08/2010 03:29:02 PM 972 Views
Rights.... - 12/08/2010 09:34:45 PM 992 Views
See, what I don't get is why gay people care about - 12/08/2010 08:18:45 PM 1013 Views
It's mostly about getting married in the eyes of the state. - 12/08/2010 08:42:52 PM 1128 Views
I'm fairly sure Jonte was referring only to the "churches have to accept gay marriages" bit. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:44:52 PM 600 Views
Hmmm... Then I shall reply to that part here. - 12/08/2010 08:50:10 PM 1126 Views
Oh, so it is an american thing, then. *NM* - 14/08/2010 08:58:28 AM 542 Views
Starting again - 12/08/2010 08:23:08 PM 1100 Views
Not at all - 12/08/2010 10:58:45 PM 1040 Views
Re: Not at all - 13/08/2010 09:14:48 AM 836 Views
Agreed *NM* - 13/08/2010 10:21:06 AM 435 Views
Oh dear - 13/08/2010 10:30:45 AM 951 Views
But what if I like being selfish and evil? *NM* - 13/08/2010 11:25:01 AM 566 Views
Well, being English might help you get away with it - 13/08/2010 11:26:17 AM 830 Views
I'm curious - 13/08/2010 01:49:15 PM 997 Views
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Okay, good. - 13/08/2010 01:58:14 PM 1060 Views
I suppose you also think that religious Pacifists should be eligible for the draft? - 12/08/2010 08:42:21 PM 1110 Views
very nicely said *NM* - 13/08/2010 02:16:53 PM 450 Views

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