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I know the fear, yes anjumfaz Send a noteboard - 11/08/2010 07:41:16 PM
She wants to take this holy month of Ramadan coming up to think and pray about us. It will either be we move on together or apart. Because once we come out there will be MEGA drama!

I can't claim to be very familiar with the Pakistani culture in the US, or for that matter Pakistani culture in Europe, but in Islamic and Southern Asian (i.e. India/Pakistan/Bangladesh) cultures, I can see how there'd be drama when a girl wants to marry an outsider. Must be sort of scary, not just the drama but the uncertainty if she dares to take that step... I hope it all works out well!


There is so much fear and uncertainty....I am in the same situation. In general, Indian/Pakistani culture includes children relying on their parents for so much more and for so much longer than in western culture. That reliance carries over past marriage as well. So if one of us makes the decision to marry an outsider, it is SO different from what culture is used to. It's scary for both the child and the parents. And that fear on the part of the parents is what is usually the basis for conflict.
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I need some advice on learning a language Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 05:27:52 PM 666 Views
For the amount of money that the Rosetta Stone software costs... Larry - 11/08/2010 05:35:37 PM 558 Views
Haha not quite; Texas. Also why I was so surprised *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 05:44:28 PM 230 Views
where in Tx is your g/f from? Aisha - 12/08/2010 05:44:03 AM 488 Views
If thats true then I definitely can't tell you! *NM* Dark Knight - 12/08/2010 06:15:24 AM 231 Views
It shouldn't be too hard to find a book + CD you can learn from. Why is software so important? *NM* Tim - 11/08/2010 05:38:48 PM 271 Views
Because my free time consists of 2 hours before bed *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 05:45:16 PM 223 Views
And? Tim - 11/08/2010 06:17:22 PM 487 Views
Oh I thought you were asking why I don't go to a class *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:24:43 PM 213 Views
find a new girlfriend? random thoughts - 11/08/2010 05:45:19 PM 522 Views
Yeah, it would be silly to waste your time on Devanagari when you need to learn the Arabic alphabet. Legolas - 11/08/2010 05:48:22 PM 578 Views
Very helpful! Thanks! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:09:09 PM 539 Views
Hindi is pretty much the same as Urdu speaking wise.... anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 06:17:50 PM 597 Views
My girlfriend has family in Canada... Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:23:35 PM 515 Views
Seems like after two years, it might be time to let her family know about you... *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:43:55 PM 235 Views
We're about at that point Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:48:42 PM 459 Views
That makes sense, yes. Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:52:53 PM 512 Views
I know the fear, yes anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:41:16 PM 563 Views
Is your status in society the same in Indian culture as it is in Pakistani culture? Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:46:48 PM 567 Views
Re: Is your status in society the same in Indian culture as it is in Pakistani culture? anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:01:44 PM 589 Views
Rant all you want! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:18:54 PM 434 Views
Oh my goodness.... anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:21:16 PM 667 Views
I have family in Texas, lol anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 06:50:25 PM 508 Views
A kindred spirit! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:06:25 PM 577 Views
Re: A kindred spirit! anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:15:50 PM 501 Views
Wow I'm not alone! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:27:02 PM 529 Views
You are right, anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:37:15 PM 562 Views
I hear you Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:43:07 PM 591 Views
Re: I hear you anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:09:27 PM 649 Views
I learn something new everyday. I did not know that. Fascinating Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:17:16 PM 507 Views
There are like half a dozen movies about that topic... safe to say you're not alone. *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:06:30 PM 217 Views
The clash between new generation and old makes for some good movie material *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:20:40 PM 243 Views
I think you're missing the important thing here. Why does she want you to learn it? *NM* Palatine - 11/08/2010 06:32:58 PM 219 Views
Because she speaks to her family/friends in her language and doesnt want me left out Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:38:00 PM 506 Views
Okay, but none of them speak English? *NM* Palatine - 11/08/2010 06:42:25 PM 229 Views
Yes but its really a cultural thing Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:46:01 PM 491 Views
It makes sense. Palatine - 12/08/2010 07:47:12 PM 657 Views
It does Floffe - 12/08/2010 07:55:31 PM 740 Views
No, I haven't read them all. Palatine - 12/08/2010 08:08:14 PM 409 Views
Why shouldn't she? *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:44:14 PM 229 Views
Re: Why shouldn't she? Palatine - 12/08/2010 07:54:47 PM 469 Views
why not? it's a part of her and languages are fun. LadyLorraine - 12/08/2010 03:33:53 AM 494 Views
Re: languages are fun. That depends. Palatine - 12/08/2010 08:03:06 PM 516 Views
My advice Bramhodoulos - 11/08/2010 07:28:39 PM 767 Views
I want to learn Romanian anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:43:09 PM 454 Views
Re: I want to learn Romanian Bramhodoulos - 11/08/2010 08:36:46 PM 539 Views
I'm definitely going to check that out! *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:44:18 PM 246 Views
You too, huh? Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:07:44 PM 523 Views
Yeah, I love the Finnish language Bramhodoulos - 11/08/2010 08:47:09 PM 481 Views
Ohhh. That's a much better reason than mine. Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:49:34 PM 485 Views
Seconded. The Routledge Colloquial series is really good. *NM* Tim - 11/08/2010 09:45:39 PM 207 Views
Fuck Rosetta Stone unless you're a complete dumbass at languages. Tom - 12/08/2010 03:29:15 AM 503 Views
Ok as an urdu speaking paki i can tell you a few things Aisha - 12/08/2010 05:41:52 AM 630 Views
Or... ironclad - 12/08/2010 11:00:42 AM 505 Views
Re: Or... Aisha - 12/08/2010 04:57:59 PM 517 Views
Good luck and God bless. Joel - 12/08/2010 11:50:18 AM 460 Views
youre moving to Karachi? *NM* Aisha - 12/08/2010 04:59:25 PM 203 Views
Er, no. Joel - 12/08/2010 05:16:51 PM 785 Views
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