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Re: Age Phelix Send a noteboard - 10/08/2010 12:01:07 AM
So, the other day, at a semi-formal event representing my boss, an older gentleman approached me and started making small talk. After a bit, he commented on how young I seemed, I couldn't be older than 31. I chuckled and told him that my 24th Birthday is next week, and that killed the conversation. He was embarrassed that his guess was 7 years off, and I was a bit offended that anyone would think I'm in my thirties just yet.

1. Would you be offended if someone guessed you were 7 years older than you are?

Not really, though I guess it would depend on the situation. I would, howeer, be offended if they thought I was seven years younger than I am, but that is rather unlikely to happen.


If your profile is correct, seven years younger would be a bit offensive.

2. Do you think people assume "professionals" have to be older than 24?

Well, you'd expect them to have gone through college or university, so 24 would be around the younger limit for a professional.


It makes sense, I guess... but guessing seven years above that is a bit much, don't you think?

3. What would you do if someone guessed that far off on your age?

Politely correct them.


Such manners.

4. Is it better to be perceived as your actual age, or to be perceived as older/more mature? Is it better to be perceived as younger?

I'd say it's overall best to be perceived at your actual age. Being young I perhaps wouldn't mind appearing a few years olde, but when I am old I guess I'd prefer to appear a bit younger.


Hmmmm... an option I did not include.

5. I should just get over it, and realize that one guy is bad at guessing ages... right?

Right, don't let it worry you at all. Maybe take it in your stride, some might respect you more if you appear maturer.


Definitely, I just wasn't sure how to take it myself at the time. Or later... it was just so odd. Most people tell me I look about my age... guessing that far off shocked me.
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