When people stop thinking you can be serious, and only see the flirt... it can be.
Phelix Send a noteboard - 07/08/2010 06:32:07 PM
1. How do you flirt?
Frequently, with words, and body language.
Makes sense
I try.
2. Are you good at flirting?
Halfway decent... better online (it's easy when you're just words on a screen).
True. I have never been especially eloquent though.
I disagree. I've liked a lot of your posts, and you (in my opinion) always express yourself well.
3. What are your best flirting tips?
Be yourself, be confident, and don't worry... everyone fails most of the time.
Confident is probably the hardest part. But thank you, good advice.
Confidence comes with practice... which takes a seed of confidence to begin with.
4. Can you know if someone likes you in "that" way?
When they jump your bones for the third time.
Nice
The first two times are just to see if you work well together.
5. How can you know if it's love and not just a crush?
Do you want the absolute best for them, even if it means taking yourself out of their life? Then it's love. If you just really enjoy spending time with them, but wouldn't sacrifice your happiness for theirs, it's less likely to be love. But it still might be!
That makes a lot of sense.
6. Are you brave when it comes to these things?
How many shots have I had? Honestly... I flirt as I breathe, both in and out. Smiles here or there, leaning in, paying lots of attention, making silly/witty jokes, and singing bad karaoke songs.
*nods*
7. How would you handle a crush/ or if in love with someone who is already a friend not to destroy the friendship?
Be open and honest about it. There's a woman I am friends with, but I think could be a stable, good relationship for both of us... but she's not into me that way. How did I find that out? By telling her "Hey there, you don't put up with my bullshit but you still enjoy my presence, and I have a lot of fun when I'm with you... Do you want to try going from friends to dating?" (That's almost a direct quote, mind you...) She then punched my arm, hugged me, and said she didn't like me quite like that, but that if I ever tried to stop being her friend she'd hunt me down and kill me. (I believe her! )
hehehe that's so cute
Heh. Thanks.
8. Do you think flirting is a lot different if the person of your "crush" is of the same sex?
Honey, no. Flirting is flirting is flirting. It depends on who you are flirting with, not their gender. The woman I mentioned above is more of a "guy" than most of the men I know... flirting with her requires a bit more bluntness and allows some crassness. I know a cute, scrawny little twink boy who I flirt with regularly... I don't think anything could come of it, but he's cute and it's fun to make him blush. There I dial back the directness, and definitely tone down the crass talk.
You have to judge your flirt based on the target of said flirtation, not on their genitalia. Even if that is your end goal.
*nods* You make a lot of sense.
I feel like I should get that framed and notarized.
9. Can you be friends with someone after you have admitted having a crush on them and they don't feel the same?
Yep... if you're open and honest about it, and both are willing to be mature about dealing with it. Honesty and maturity are what will keep your friendship together.
*nods*
Thank you for any answer.
Sorry I haven't been around for a while.
(I have never felt this way about anyone before, but I don't want to destroy our friendship if she don't feel the same way.)
It's OK, princess... have fun.
Thanks
Always welcome.
I was Phelix on wotmania, I will always be Phelix in the "real" world, and now I am Phelix on RAFO.
You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.- Churchill
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You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.- Churchill
*MySmiley*
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