I don't have romantic love in my life right now, unfortunately, nor have I had in some time. I don't have a lot of accomplishments, nor a tremendous number of ambitions beyond some vague if/then ideas. I feel as if there's a fair amount of room for improvement in the happiness levels in my life. But that said, I'm not unhappy. But why not? Why do I, for the most part, feel okay about things?
It's possible part of the answer comes down to genes and chemicals. I've always been generally optimistic (though I've certainly had my bad periods). But beyond that, which I couldn't really explain and which wouldn't be a helpful answer, it's a tough question.
I have a few good friends, and that helps. I have an active imagination, which I use more for dreaming up nice things that make me feel happy than for dreaming up nice things and being bitter that I don't have them. I have video games that I like to play, combined with a completionist bent that gives me lots to do in them. I have plenty of books to read, movies and tv shows to watch. I have the internet, which gives me cool/interesting/exciting things to look at. I have a relativey nice place to live. I have a family that I mostly like. I have an apartment where I can enjoy privacy and solitude when I want it. I have a job that is sometimes long in the tooth but mostly kind of cushy, even if it doesn't pay that much.
I have hopes. That might be a big one. I have hopes that there are certain things I can eventually have, including romantic love, ideally combined with physical intimacy this time. And I know that there will always be new things to entertain me -- new movies, books, tv episodes, video games. There will be new places to explore.
I think that all of these things make life worth living.
The harder question is, if you don't have any of these things, or if they are not enough, then what? Why don't you have them? What could you do to get them? Why are they not enough? What more do you want?
I don't mean you specifically, Roh. That's more of the general you. And they may be rhetorical questions, if they apply at all. I'm sure everyone is different, both in what they have, what they want, and how it all combines to form their level of happiness.
I hope you are well though!
It's possible part of the answer comes down to genes and chemicals. I've always been generally optimistic (though I've certainly had my bad periods). But beyond that, which I couldn't really explain and which wouldn't be a helpful answer, it's a tough question.
I have a few good friends, and that helps. I have an active imagination, which I use more for dreaming up nice things that make me feel happy than for dreaming up nice things and being bitter that I don't have them. I have video games that I like to play, combined with a completionist bent that gives me lots to do in them. I have plenty of books to read, movies and tv shows to watch. I have the internet, which gives me cool/interesting/exciting things to look at. I have a relativey nice place to live. I have a family that I mostly like. I have an apartment where I can enjoy privacy and solitude when I want it. I have a job that is sometimes long in the tooth but mostly kind of cushy, even if it doesn't pay that much.
I have hopes. That might be a big one. I have hopes that there are certain things I can eventually have, including romantic love, ideally combined with physical intimacy this time. And I know that there will always be new things to entertain me -- new movies, books, tv episodes, video games. There will be new places to explore.
I think that all of these things make life worth living.
The harder question is, if you don't have any of these things, or if they are not enough, then what? Why don't you have them? What could you do to get them? Why are they not enough? What more do you want?
I don't mean you specifically, Roh. That's more of the general you. And they may be rhetorical questions, if they apply at all. I'm sure everyone is different, both in what they have, what they want, and how it all combines to form their level of happiness.
I hope you are well though!
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Danae-Log: So. What makes life worth living?
08/05/2010 05:04:26 PM
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The good bits
08/05/2010 05:17:37 PM
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Re: There are cannibals out there who believe(d) that if you ate bits of your enemy/someone,
08/05/2010 05:24:16 PM
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Re: There are cannibals out there who believe(d) that if you ate bits of your enemy/someone,
08/05/2010 05:27:27 PM
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Re: It's because the muscles haven't gotten all developed and stringy yet.
08/05/2010 05:28:44 PM
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Re: It's because the muscles haven't gotten all developed and stringy yet.
08/05/2010 05:30:42 PM
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Re: I think lots of us had pre-construed that anyway. Sorry.
08/05/2010 05:35:16 PM
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Try meditation. Just breathing exercises and relaxation.
08/05/2010 05:24:34 PM
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Re: Um, I meditate. And I manage quote fine without CDs to do it. *NM*
08/05/2010 05:27:28 PM
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I would posit you're not doing a good job if you're considering suicide. *NM*
09/05/2010 04:39:05 AM
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Re: I'm not considering suicide! It says so in my post! I'm so annoyed with people who assume I am!
09/05/2010 05:23:37 AM
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Why do you need to affirmatively say you're not considering suicide, then?
09/05/2010 05:41:50 AM
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Re: Because I wanted to make clear my problem, and ask for a little help that wasn't about fixing me
09/05/2010 05:50:27 AM
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I can only think of one reason
08/05/2010 06:43:11 PM
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Frankly, I agree, but it's not something of which people can be really be "convinced. "
12/05/2010 12:43:29 AM
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No
12/05/2010 12:53:42 AM
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Oh, I totally agree.
12/05/2010 01:05:29 AM
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Ah, so you used "convinced" as a verb and not as a participle *NM*
12/05/2010 09:30:59 AM
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personally
08/05/2010 06:45:45 PM
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That's an insanely hard question Danae
08/05/2010 08:53:06 PM
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Re:
08/05/2010 08:58:50 PM
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Ah, I see
08/05/2010 09:19:22 PM
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So what makes you think death is any better? *NM*
08/05/2010 09:11:46 PM
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Re: Um, since I am not contemplating suicide, it's not an issue.
08/05/2010 09:16:39 PM
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No easy answer.
08/05/2010 09:26:52 PM
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Re: Dude, my new pills have cured my insomnia, it is awesome. I'd forgotten about that.
08/05/2010 09:28:54 PM
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I just wanna know what's next, 'cause it tends to be baffling.
08/05/2010 10:18:16 PM
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Re: Do you believe in reincarnation? You might be able to! *NM*
09/05/2010 05:24:17 AM
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That would be way awesome.
09/05/2010 11:53:40 PM
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Re: I haven't read it. Or heard of it. Let us know what it's like! *NM*
10/05/2010 08:36:41 AM
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Experience
08/05/2010 10:44:08 PM
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I'm fairly certain there isn't some magic "thing."
08/05/2010 10:45:34 PM
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Because I can't be world dictator if I am dead
08/05/2010 10:47:37 PM
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Re: I think it's a RAFOnaut thing, to want to be world dictator.
09/05/2010 05:28:01 AM
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Helping other people. *NM*
08/05/2010 10:51:28 PM
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Can't help you there.
08/05/2010 11:22:01 PM
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Some days it just boils down to duty.
09/05/2010 12:52:06 AM
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Re: The no expectations thing is HARD. To do on a moment-to-moment basis.
09/05/2010 05:43:00 AM
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I was in a slightly bleak mood when I wrote the first reply. I need to amend it.
13/05/2010 12:59:09 AM
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That there will be a sixth season of Supernatural?
09/05/2010 06:30:34 AM
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Re: I actually haven't watched anything since xxx released ddd and told aaa he'd say ssss.
09/05/2010 10:28:03 AM
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love, connection with others, the awe of being alive in the world
09/05/2010 07:17:34 AM
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Whatever you decide it does
09/05/2010 10:17:09 AM
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Yep, it's one of those clips that makes you think mankind isn't that bad after all *NM*
11/05/2010 09:20:38 AM
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The small things.
09/05/2010 10:45:46 AM
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Re: Dammit, Rebekah, now I have a song playing in my head.
09/05/2010 11:06:46 AM
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Carnal bliss, hydrocodone and brownies
09/05/2010 10:47:24 AM
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Hmm. I'm trying to seriously consider your question.
10/05/2010 02:21:32 AM
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I stick around for updates to the Danae-Log!
10/05/2010 12:14:43 PM
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Re: Dude.
10/05/2010 04:44:24 PM
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Heh. click the link.
10/05/2010 05:45:53 PM
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