How is Aviendha a lunatic? Or how is she in a way that does not condemn Min as well? What does Aviendha do that is crazy? Most of what you might argue in that area stems from YOUR lack of understanding of her culture. She behaves in an extremely rational manner within the constraints of her culture and circumstances. You might argue that she is violent, but who is more violent? The trained and responsible soldier or the woman with no real combat skills who takes five books after her first failure in this area is exposed to finally admit it to herself? The woman who has never actually used a weapon when violence was not called for or the one who brandishes knives to a make a point in conversations and throws them at her boyfriend to get his attention. You are basically comparing two women, one of whom is a veteran of a crack military unit and takes great care to maintain her gun, cleaning it frequently but only drawing it when danger threatens; and the other of whom has a fancy fast-draw holster she got from a performer and who spins the gun on her finger, draws it when he hears of past tragedies or mishaps and when her boyfriend ignores her, fires it past his ear! Min is far and away more crazy than Aviendha.

As for Elayne, what in her life suggests she has ever been seriously pampered? She was brought up to be accustomed to having servants because it was expected that her job would be too important for her to have time to cook and clean up for herself. Beyond that, she was rigorously schooled from as soon as she was capable of understanding human speech, by every account. Her caregivers and tutors were a mother who is said to have been very sparing in her praise (and every recollection she has of her mother is criticism or lessons), an abrasive nurse who is critical and judgmental of everyone with whom she deals (and inspires similar recollections), a general who seems to have been her only father figure (and who is exposed in tFoH & LoC as being indifferent to her now that he is no longer sleeping with her mother) and an Aes Sedai who is said to be too demanding a teacher and who expressed favor by piling on higher expectations! Which of them do you think coddled Elayne? Beyond that, she surpasses all her commoner friends in the skills that SHOULD be their bailiwick! Of the four women who accompanied Liandrin to Far Madding, which one surpases Elayne in ANY non-political/non-royal skill? Aside from Nynaeve's medical training (which we see in her first appearance is a skill Elayne is not lacking either, as compared to Egwene aggressive resistance to medical knowledge in tDR), Elayne surpasses them all! Exactly HOW do you define spoiled? The best cook & seamstress (who actually does the sewing for the group)? The one with the least complaints about foreign ways? The one whose role in the group dynamic is almost invariably the peacemaker? And even if you are going by knee-jerk associations from other fantasy, don't the spoiled daughters of royalty usually berate their servants, or torment them with frivolous demands, rather than keeping her mouth shut, eating what they serve her in defiance of her requests and letting them fuss unnecessarily or tolerate intrusions into her privacy because it makes the servants happy? I wouldn't tolerate the service she experiences in WH through KoD from a Burger King or a K-Mart, let alone people I was feeding, clothing, sheltering AND paying a salary to!

I would challenge those criteria as well. Don't forget, marriage for love has about half the success rate of arranged marriages and marriages of state or for property. The latter have only become tenuous because divorce has become profitable.

Which one of the two women who are just fine with him traveling and having constant sex with another women without a single attempt at communication with them qualfies as "high maintenance"? Rand NEVER speaks to Aviendha in tGS, despite essentially being in the same place for the whole book, and she isn't upset at least. It is only until Min's gauche & insensitive behavior and impertinent questions drive her beyond endurance that she even gets upset.

Meanwhile, Min is the one who clings to Rand like a leech, uses her relationship with him to inveigele herself into important diplomatic missions where she has no business, serves no practical purpose and takes up a slot that COULD be occupied by a woman who could provide political or cultural insight, combat support or even a channeler in disguise. Instead, Miss Low Maintenance claims that place as the price of her sexual services.

You may have your rules, but Rand's violated rule about making promises in bed is equally valid. Of the three girlfriends, which is the only one to have ever extracted such a promise? The one YOU call low-maintenance!

I WOULD call any women crazy who tolerate their love interest running around with a stuck-up bimbo who gives herself airs because she sleeps with the Dragon Reborn

She is far more stable and serious and takes the relationship and the inherent commitments involved far more seriously than Min. Elayne and Aviendha both specifically recognize & articulate Rand's importance, especially in relation to themselves. They suck it up and deal with the painful (for them) realities of his being the Dragon Reborn. Min is the one in denial who pitches a temper tantrum when Rand attempts to face the facts.