Beside being very offensive by accusing most readers of WOT to be mysogynists (that's totally gratuitous and deeply stupid), you've missed the whole point. A whole lot of points, actually.

Those scenes aren't supposed to make you feel good, those scenes of torture, rape, psychological abuse (Graendal's style or not) - they're supposed to be disturbing.

There is no actual rapes to read about, merely allusions between the lines that it's part of Shadar Haran's punishments. It's from a Q&A that we got the confirmation that yes, among other disgusting things Shadar Haran raped Moghedien as a punishment. Shadar Haran is part Fade. They're beastly and they lust for women. That's the Shadow, it doesn't think like human beings, it's life-negating and has no respect for anything in the pattern. Jordan's not responsible if some of his readers aren't disturbed by those punishments.

And now, what's Jordan's "famous balance" (as you put it) got to do with it? The side of the Creator is designed to work in balance, but that balance is in jeopardy because of the Dark One. Shaitan is chaos and the negation of balance. He is the very incarnation of whims and unfair treatments - and Jordan made that quite clear.

As for how these scenes actually makes a mysogynist out of Jordan, you're again missing the whole point. Why do you think Jordan had the character associated with Absolute Evil use rape as a barbaric and disgusting punishment if not precisely because he thought it was one of the most repellent things that can be done to a woman? It's not even exploitative, he chose not to describe the scenes or be blunt about it - he had rape in mind, among other things, but chose to largely leave to the readers' imagination (and young readers just won't imagine it was rape) what Shadar Haran has really done to punish Moghedien. The ethics followed in WOT by majority of male characters would never condone rape and would deal with rapists very harshly (and some have actually done it).