Well that has absolutely nothing to do with the character. In no way, shape or form could the term spoiled be applied to her in any serious way. Sure she is accustomed to luxuries that few of the other characters are, but that hardly makes her spoiled, since it never affects her actions. This "spoiled" and slumming daughter of a queen has as her best friends, the daughters of a miner, an innkeeper, a farmer and a barbarian whose people killed most of her paternal kin. Most of whom benefit more from her friendship with them than the other way around. The most her royal upbringing does is skew her perspective slightly, as when she is unaware of the value of her clothing compared to ordinary people and worries about the cost of procuring replacement garments, or when, from Nynaeve's perspective, she is too liberal with her charity and tips. Not having any firm information on prices and costs and incomes in WoT, much less the customs of tipping, we have no idea whether Nynaeve's view of her profligacy or hers of Nynaeve's penury is more accurate. Beyond that, we see that not only is she willing to contribute to the daily-chores labor when traveling with her peasant companions, she is better at such tasks than the two women who grew up having to do these things for themselves. She does the sewing in tDR to alter their clothes when traveling with Egwene & Nynaeve, the former of whom notes her skill, and when she & Nynaeve are with the circus, her cooking draws dinner guests, while Nynaeve's drives away everyone but Elayne (note that despite being the closest to a gourmand among the characters, she nevertheless eats with Nynaeve, when Thom, Juilin and Luca flee to a tastier meal, despite knowing Nynaeve longer than Elayne has or being sexually attracted to her). Please tell me how, in any meaningful sense of the word, Elayne acts spoiled?