Before modification by Roland00 at 10/10/2017 04:26:31 AM
At what point after you lose your soulmate and the love of your life is it okay to feel horny again?
It's been over 7 months since Laurel passed away. Almost a year since I last had sex. Yes I will be 65 on December 3rd. I'm old. I'm not dead.
I still feel guilty and disloyal when I think about another woman. How long is appropriate before I can get laid without beating myself up with guilt?
Lets talk about feelings, and lets not talk about Ethos...for in life there is not ultimate authority, or character, or customs, or mores that can explain the infinite that is life. You want an answer for it will make you feel more comfortable with the conflicted feelings you are having right now Mookie, like the answer will provide perspective in a chaos that you are feeling, and also work as some for of band-aid where you will feel stronger after the answer.
But an answer based around ethos that someone else gives will just obscure and not illuminate. What you do not want is an answer Mookie, like a number like 3 days, 42 months, forever, 7 years, etc.
Instead you are looking for a guide. Now I am a shitty guide, and some people just naturally have a talent with being a guide, but with me and me specifically I need to understand and to know more before I can be a guide.
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True teaching is not an accumulation of knowledge; it is an awaking of consciousness which goes through successive stages.
(...there was something else I was trying to say, and I am trying to remember the proverb, and I got it 80 / 90% in my working memory, but laying it out in a step wise pattern is coming hard to me right now.)