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Yes. Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 04/11/2009 12:36:24 AM

It doesn't change their relationship with the boy one bit, unless they let it (but something tells me that people who are that amazing about putting their attention where it belongs, i.e., their grandchild and not their deadbeat kid, are going to understand this just fine).


My brother and sister-in-law would just have to be adamant about maintaining their connection with the in-laws so that they would never feel shut out.


And I have a lot more faith in the ability of adults to be able to communicate and understand this than a child. Maybe that's my fundamental error

If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

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