1) Have you ever been in a similar situation? Either as the parent, child, grandparent?
My parents divorced when I was a toddler and I don't remember living with my dad at all. I also only saw him a couple of times a year, so he wasn't really involved in my life. My mom married my step dad when I was 9, so it isn't exactly the same situation, but close. My step-dad is my dad as far as I'm concerned. I still call him Robert, but I don't really equate that with being his name. It is like saying "dad" for me.
They asked me if I would like to be adopted by him and change my last name, but I said no. If for the only reason that my name was my name. As a 10 year old (when they asked) I probably didn't answer it with much tact, but it wasn't a comment against my step-dad nor a comment in favor of my dad. It was my name and I wanted to keep it.
2) How, if at all, would having a different last name than your siblings affect you?
It would have made people realize that my step-brother and step-sister were "related" to me, but it wouldn't have changed anything. My sister is two years older and brother is one year younger, so old enough to know it wouldn't matter. We would have just been adopted siblings instead of step-siblings.
3) Would you feel offended if you were the biological grandparent in this type of situation?
It is tricky. I don't think there is a right answer. The important part is maintaining the relationship. Names are ultimately trivial. If you are worried that the kids will grow up with different names...don't. Step-families aren't exactly a new thing.
Palabra a tu madre.
Changing your child's name...
02/11/2009 11:07:40 PM
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Is your brother going to actually adopt the child?
02/11/2009 11:54:20 PM
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My brother wants to, but...
03/11/2009 11:18:20 PM
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Does he pay child support?
04/11/2009 12:38:33 AM
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Never paid a dime.
04/11/2009 12:44:40 AM
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I'd only change the name if he adopted the son legally.
03/11/2009 12:23:08 AM
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I'm more interested in the feelings/needs of the child than the feelings of adults.
03/11/2009 01:16:49 AM
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My situation was almost the same.
03/11/2009 02:10:24 AM
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My sister changed her name when she ascended to the Crystal Throne, may she live forever.
03/11/2009 02:52:35 AM
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I personally believe the boy should keep his biological fathers last name no matter what *NM*
03/11/2009 03:18:24 AM
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Are they changing his name to Clark Kent? If so, I don't think the kid will have a problem. *NM*
03/11/2009 04:04:35 AM
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I gave She her dad's last name, we weren't married, had no real intentions of getting married,
03/11/2009 05:10:31 AM
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Here are my thoughts (I have been in a somewhat similar situation).
03/11/2009 06:52:17 AM
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