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Thanks, Roland LaSombra Send a noteboard - 23/02/2016 09:38:25 PM

Hugs are always good

Thanks for the words. I do think he's a toxic person to me... It just took me a while to figure that out. I'm not used to being around toxic people, really...


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I have so much to say and I do not know where to start, so lets just do hugs instead

Speaking as a person who parents were divorced, and being around a lot of toxic people who only now with me turning 30 do I realize how toxic they were and how it took me years to distance myself from them...what I am trying to say is that I have not lived your life but I truly think I can understand what you went through for some of my life is similar and getting away from toxic people is a whole lot easier said than done.

(I am going to do a change of style. I am going to switch from 1st person to 3rd person but still refer to myself but use words like you Please understand this is me speaking as me, please understand I am purposefully using 3rd person when I say you in anything colored green, that I am really talking about myself and my current and past self as an abstract concept and I am not refering to you La Sombra, this goes on for the next section as long as the text is the color green)

There is this feeling known as Dysphoria ...You do not want to do it, part of you is living in denial expecting a toxic situation to somehow change that it will get better. Even if you do not believe it will not get better the future is so uncertain and even thought the general sense of uneasiness, anxiousness, worry, and kinda like of depression and dread is not going away part of you feel that this dysphoria, this sense of uneasiness is somehow better than the feeling of dread and void of what could be if all goes to hell... (this is me done talking in third person)

What I am trying to say is please take care of yourself La Sombra and as long as you take care of yourself the future is going to be good, for both you and the kids. Why is it going to be good? For when you take care of yourself you are more capable of doing what is right and needed and thus everything gets better.

I am offering hugs as much as you want. Please do not be afraid to take my hugs.

I am also willing to try to share if you think sharing will help you, but please understand I do not know what you need to hear right now, so all I am going to say is I am offering support and you tell me what you need right now.

Is this a fair agreement?

What do you need La Sombra?


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Great Stand Up by Louis CK on this very subject (youtube link) Roland00 - 22/02/2016 11:31:41 AM 938 Views
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