It's no fun, certainly, to go through. It's a miserable process and kids complicate it and I know this because I'm going through it yet again now. But the point is that if things devolved to a situation where you would rather go through that misery than stay in the relationship another day, it means you need to get out. Once you have, you will be happier and be able to build something else. And at the end of the day, that's a good thing. My first wife is immeasurably happier than she was when we were married because we didn't want the same things or have compatible temperaments. I would say I'm immeasurably happier too, but as I just mentioned I'm in the middle of my second divorce so it's not all sunshine in my life, though I'm enjoying the opportunity to be back out dating. Even after ending a several-month relationship because it wasn't right for me, it was still better than my marriage was even in the beginning, and that's nice.