her description of what happened makes it sound like "assault" is putting it mildly - and is, while surprising may not be the right word, still shocking to me in the sense that this is an (apparently) well-known person, porn star as you say, who still somehow puts up with someone who she says abused her on a number of counts even before the extreme case that finally pushed her to seek publicity. Of course, her description of what happened isn't necessarily accurate, but considering the pictures and him failing to deny the facts, there's not too much room for doubt.
So your apparent equation of the two acts (that is, assuming that she was in fact lying when denying she had sex with someone else - at this point I'm more inclined to take her word than his) seems rather questionable to me.
If there is any lesson or conclusion to be drawn from this story, it should be that victims of abuse still are failing to seek help until it reaches extreme levels, even when being (sort of) famous and having fans and all, that they are still ashamed and afraid of going public. Which is awful, and I can only hope that this kind of story encourages more people to take that step.