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Re: What pregnancy does to your body *edit* Avendesora Send a noteboard - 27/06/2013 11:21:37 PM

View original postI have a serious fear of pregnancy/childbirth. I'd say it was rational, not pathological, if not for my morbid fascination with all that stuff. Every once in a while, I'll spend hours reading about all the awful things that happen to you and retraumatize myself again. Worst, there's a chance I'll vomit all that information back up. This is how my boyfriend knows what an episiotomy is.


View original postSo I'd like to share with you the latest thing I've found on the Internet. A blog with submissions of women speaking about how pregnancy and giving birth changed their bodies. With pictures. I feel so bad for them. It's so awful and depressing. Not because good looks are essential to happiness, but they experience a permanent loss, their bodies are warped forever,the lack of control over what happens to them.


View original postWarning: the site has pictures of breasts.

I'm sorry that you are so afraid of it.

This is just me thinking out loud, but I wonder if attitudes would be different if we didn't idolize thin, fit bodies so much in the media. We attach so much value to body type amd looks. Women's bellies stretch to fit babies. They don't always stretch back. Boobs deflate. Some people's bodies bounce back wonderfully. Mine didn't, and I don't really care. I am 40, love my laugh lines, and my stretch marks. My size and weight are the consequences of my actions. Yours would be too. When I was pregnant, I wasn't horrified by what happened to my body. I was so elated by what was happening to me that I seemed oblivious to it all. I know not everyone feels that way, so I a fortunate that I was happy about it. The stretch marks faded and are translucent. It's ok that some people think I've let myself go to shit.

So much money is spent on wrinkle treatments, topical or plastic surgery. Hair dye to cover up the grays. Lots of makeup. Some people are such slaves to fashion.
(Edited to add: I don't think fashion is evil. I like it to a certain extent. But when a person bases their value as a human being on whether or not they've got the latest Dior's Wang bag or fragrance then it's a bit much.)

Please don't take this the wrong way, because this is merely my curiosity asking. Do you view people differently if they don't look like the media standard? Do you place higher value on yourself if you do?

I always thought the media standard was quite mysongenistic and unrealistic. I think it applies to mothers' bodies too.

*MySmiley*

I believe all news and research that supports my opinion, and dismiss the rest as conspiracy and lies.
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almost a year post birth and no regrets here... your fears are unwarranted. - 27/06/2013 04:52:39 PM 751 Views
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Re: What pregnancy does to your body *edit* - 27/06/2013 11:21:37 PM 875 Views
i really love what you've said here. thank you *NM* - 28/06/2013 05:08:24 AM 466 Views
I have to agree, those pictures are kind of horrifying. - 28/06/2013 01:55:39 AM 641 Views
Well - 28/06/2013 05:45:40 AM 658 Views
ehh... my girl had 3 children when I met her - 28/06/2013 02:36:47 PM 600 Views
A textbook example of confirmation bias. *NM* - 28/06/2013 04:29:59 PM 334 Views
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