If nothing else, you deserve some credit for recognizing that that does it for you and wanting to know how you can keep from cheating despite those urges.
I've heard other people who are like that find ways to keep up the "chase dynamic" within committed relationships so that the chaser's interest is always kept focused on the person they want to be with. Not sure how it's done, but I'm assuming roleplay and such fits into it.
Of course, you have to have a partner who is willing to constantly play the flirt and chase-ee. Not all people can do that.
Talk to her about this problem and see if you two can work something out.
I've heard other people who are like that find ways to keep up the "chase dynamic" within committed relationships so that the chaser's interest is always kept focused on the person they want to be with. Not sure how it's done, but I'm assuming roleplay and such fits into it.
Of course, you have to have a partner who is willing to constantly play the flirt and chase-ee. Not all people can do that.
Talk to her about this problem and see if you two can work something out.
I am on the verge of having an affair
11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM
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Ditch the wife or stop being a prat.
12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM
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Great. Helpful advice
12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM
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What exactly do you want to hear?
12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM
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I don't know, something helpful
12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM
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The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice
12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM
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So there is no situation in which advice helps?
12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM
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I didn't say nobody could help you at all
12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM
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My opinion ...
12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM
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That's not really advice
12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM
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Why is it obvious?
12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM
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Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM*
12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM
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Careful you don't fall off that high horse
12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM
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You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM*
13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM
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What exactly did you want to hear?
12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM
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role play. *NM*
12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM
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I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you!
12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM
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i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you?
13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM
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If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM*
12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM
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You have 4 options
12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM
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Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster.
13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM
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I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives
12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM
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I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way.
12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM
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I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty.
13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM
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The thrill of the chase
13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM
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Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made?
13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM
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Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM*
14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM
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