Here is my advice. - Edit 1
Before modification by callandor1000 at 12/02/2013 03:52:14 PM
To me, there is nothing more exciting in this life than the thrill of the hunt. That's what I always loved about dating. The new experience, the excitement in getting the woman to like you. When I'm in the middle of flirting, my heart is pounding rapidly. The look in her eyes, the calculated touch of my hand against hers...
I met the love of my life and got married. I am completely and utterly satisfied with my life. I love my wife dearly. But I can't escape the allure of the forbidden romance. I still flirt like crazy. I eagerly await my next chance to entice a woman into thinking bad thoughts about me. There is no greater high for me than this chase. It occupies my waking mind constantly. I'm always checking out the women at work, thinking of ways to integrate myself into their lives. Break down their barriers slowly.
I've come close to cheating twice. Both times I backed out because I got cold feet. I love my wife too much to risk losing her. But I just can't stop directly or indirectly pursuing women. And it's not even about sex. It's all the moments that lead up to sex. The women I flirt with are aware that I'm married. Most of them are too. But I form friendships with beautiful women, or women with nice breasts or a nice butt, basically whatever attracted me to them. In time, they tell me intimate details about their lives. Those are the moments I savor. To get a woman to that point, where it becomes inappropriate...ambrosia.
I wouldn't have a dilemma if I didn't truly love my wife. She's perfect for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But the best moments in life are the passionate ones, the ones that get your heart pumping. Chasing women does this. Any advice? How should I handle this? I haven't gone totally over the line yet, but I fear that's only a matter of time.
*EDIT* Well my dilemma has been answered! Just get divorced or stop flirting. I can't believe I never thought of that! I don't know why I tried posting this here. I suffered temporary insanity and forgot how most people here are self-righteous assholes. I didn't post this to receive your moral lectures. Like you bastards are any cleaner. If I knew you in real life, I bet I could dig up some nasty shit on each of you. I'm done with this poor excuse for wotmania.
I met the love of my life and got married. I am completely and utterly satisfied with my life. I love my wife dearly. But I can't escape the allure of the forbidden romance. I still flirt like crazy. I eagerly await my next chance to entice a woman into thinking bad thoughts about me. There is no greater high for me than this chase. It occupies my waking mind constantly. I'm always checking out the women at work, thinking of ways to integrate myself into their lives. Break down their barriers slowly.
I've come close to cheating twice. Both times I backed out because I got cold feet. I love my wife too much to risk losing her. But I just can't stop directly or indirectly pursuing women. And it's not even about sex. It's all the moments that lead up to sex. The women I flirt with are aware that I'm married. Most of them are too. But I form friendships with beautiful women, or women with nice breasts or a nice butt, basically whatever attracted me to them. In time, they tell me intimate details about their lives. Those are the moments I savor. To get a woman to that point, where it becomes inappropriate...ambrosia.
I wouldn't have a dilemma if I didn't truly love my wife. She's perfect for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But the best moments in life are the passionate ones, the ones that get your heart pumping. Chasing women does this. Any advice? How should I handle this? I haven't gone totally over the line yet, but I fear that's only a matter of time.
*EDIT* Well my dilemma has been answered! Just get divorced or stop flirting. I can't believe I never thought of that! I don't know why I tried posting this here. I suffered temporary insanity and forgot how most people here are self-righteous assholes. I didn't post this to receive your moral lectures. Like you bastards are any cleaner. If I knew you in real life, I bet I could dig up some nasty shit on each of you. I'm done with this poor excuse for wotmania.
First, let me tell you a bit about myself. Got married this past August. I'm personally not religious. My wife grew up Catholic and though occasionally struggling with faith, I believe she is mostly Catholic. There has never really been religion in my family. So my morals aren't really shaped that much by religion. I have several cousins with kids out of marriage, two with multiple dads, but no one in my family cares all that much. A little here, and there. But whatever. Some have married, some will marry, some won't marry.
Okay, now while I do think you're being a douche, it is not necessarily because you're flirting. Well it is, but it isn't. My advice I guess will make this clearer.
You got married. I assume with the pretext of being with each other and only each other, so on and so forth. I also assume with the pretext of having a life together. This is, at the end of the day, her expectations, right? You know that. You are not currently giving her that. Now I think if you stopped today, you can wash yourself of it and forget about it. But I think in the end, that will do you harm as you won't forget about it or hide your desires for good and it will eat at you.
The only thing I can see for you to do, if you want to save a relationship with this woman you married, is to talk to her. You two are building a life together, building an experience, experiences to be more accurate, and when you get married you are both part of the equation. You are leaving her out. This is wrong, no matter how you look at it. This is mostly why you are being a douche.
So my advice: talk to her. If she doesn't know what is going on, you can't fix the issue. She is part of the equation, obviously a very important part.
Marrying a Catholic as I did meant my wife and I had to go through pre-cana and have meetings/therapy/training with a priest on being married. Now, I'm pretty closed to a lot of religion. Most of it doesn't sit logically with me. But so often there was one underlying theme to many of the messages and was a large theme itself. Communication is key. If you don't communicate with her, as you are not now, it doesn't matter that you might cheat on her. You're in trouble if you can't talk to each other. If she can't listen to you and you guys can't eventually have a successful, productive conversation about this, then maybe you aren't so right for each other.