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If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM
One, continue as you are, and likely eventually succumb to cheating. It'll be fun but you may suffer from guilt, and the situation will undoubtedly implode at some point.

Two, give up the flirting, be faithful purely to your wife.

Three, divorce your wife, because it's possible no matter how perfect you think the two of you are, marriage and monogamy simply aren't for you.

Four, talk this over with your wife, and enter an open relationship, pursue swinging, or something else along such lines. Or if she's completely opposed to it, you have the first three options--only with option one now being exponentially more difficult to carry out.

All of these have their upsides and their downsides, because you're in a shitty situation and therefore have shitty possibilities. My advice, if she's actually "the love of your life" then drop the flirting and keep it within socially acceptable bounds. If, however, on serious reflection you aren't certain that you are as deeply in love with your wife as you first thought, you will likely be better off independent of her. Nothing wrong with being single. It all just depends on what things matter to you most, and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.
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I am on the verge of having an affair - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1755 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1012 Views
Great. Helpful advice - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 896 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 875 Views
I don't know, something helpful - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 940 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 902 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 940 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 925 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1108 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1008 Views
My opinion ... - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 939 Views
That's not really advice - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 939 Views
Why is it obvious? - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 954 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1129 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 888 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 841 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 606 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 478 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 874 Views
role play. *NM* - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 490 Views
You have 4 options - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 868 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 464 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 872 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1087 Views
find another passion - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 853 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1037 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 888 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 468 Views
That was kind of my take. - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1101 Views
I get where you're coming from - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 974 Views
Here is my advice. - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1144 Views
Well said. - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 867 Views
LOL - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 899 Views
Nice choice of words, there - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 924 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1020 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1037 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 943 Views
The thrill of the chase - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 909 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 485 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 526 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 914 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 792 Views

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