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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight Send a noteboard - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM
To me, there is nothing more exciting in this life than the thrill of the hunt. That's what I always loved about dating. The new experience, the excitement in getting the woman to like you. When I'm in the middle of flirting, my heart is pounding rapidly. The look in her eyes, the calculated touch of my hand against hers...

I met the love of my life and got married. I am completely and utterly satisfied with my life. I love my wife dearly. But I can't escape the allure of the forbidden romance. I still flirt like crazy. I eagerly await my next chance to entice a woman into thinking bad thoughts about me. There is no greater high for me than this chase. It occupies my waking mind constantly. I'm always checking out the women at work, thinking of ways to integrate myself into their lives. Break down their barriers slowly.

I've come close to cheating twice. Both times I backed out because I got cold feet. I love my wife too much to risk losing her. But I just can't stop directly or indirectly pursuing women. And it's not even about sex. It's all the moments that lead up to sex. The women I flirt with are aware that I'm married. Most of them are too. But I form friendships with beautiful women, or women with nice breasts or a nice butt, basically whatever attracted me to them. In time, they tell me intimate details about their lives. Those are the moments I savor. To get a woman to that point, where it becomes inappropriate...ambrosia.

I wouldn't have a dilemma if I didn't truly love my wife. She's perfect for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But the best moments in life are the passionate ones, the ones that get your heart pumping. Chasing women does this. Any advice? How should I handle this? I haven't gone totally over the line yet, but I fear that's only a matter of time.

*EDIT* Well my dilemma has been answered! Just get divorced or stop flirting. I can't believe I never thought of that! I don't know why I tried posting this here. I suffered temporary insanity and forgot how most people here are self-righteous assholes. I didn't post this to receive your moral lectures. Like you bastards are any cleaner. If I knew you in real life, I bet I could dig up some nasty shit on each of you. I'm done with this poor excuse for wotmania.
Formerly Mat Bloody Cauthon on Wotmania, blessed be its name
This message last edited by Dark Knight on 12/02/2013 at 05:01:49 AM
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1755 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1012 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 896 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 875 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 940 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 902 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 940 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 925 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1108 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1008 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 939 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 939 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 954 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1129 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 888 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 500 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 979 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 463 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 841 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 606 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 478 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 874 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 490 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 963 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 840 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 446 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 868 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 463 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 883 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 872 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 962 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1087 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 853 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1036 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 888 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 468 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1101 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 974 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1144 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 867 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 899 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 924 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1020 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1037 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 943 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 908 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 942 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 485 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 526 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 914 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 791 Views
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