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I am fine with it if all existing parties to the marriage consent to each addition. Tim Send a noteboard - 20/10/2012 10:10:19 AM
Mostly we see "polygamy" as meaning "man is in charge, and can take as many wives as he wants". This is unfair on any wives who aren't willing to share him. And when we hear the word "bigamy", we usually think about a man from a monogamist section of society who has two families, each secret from the other. Both women are then shocked when the man is taken to hospital and they are both called to his bedside. This is obviously not OK.

But if a polygamist family wants legal recognition for an arrangement where additional adults can join the marriage with the consent of all those who are already in it, I don't see why they shouldn't have that recognition. We should only ban things that are harmful.

However, when it comes to the civil consequences of marriage, such as social security benefits and inheritance rights, the legislature would have to be careful not to give unfair advantages to polygamists. To take a simple example, if a state's inheritance law says that the spouse of someone who dies intestate inherits a maximum of $300,000 from the estate, with the remainder going to the deceased's children, that $300,000 should be split equally between all the surviving spouses in a polygamist family. They shouldn't get $300,000 each, as that would unfairly disadvantage the children.

Any state pension payable to widow(er)s should also be split. Over time this will even out, since after spouses 1 and 2 are both dead, spouse 3 will get a widow(er)'s pension (or a fraction of one) in respect of both. And so on. I realise it would get very complicated in some circumstances, but I'm sure the civil servants could work it out.
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For all you supporters of Gay Marriage: What about polygamy? - 20/10/2012 12:02:06 AM 1424 Views
Legal rights. - 20/10/2012 12:14:10 AM 826 Views
It almost sounds like you are saying... - 20/10/2012 12:31:40 AM 801 Views
That is what I'm saying it. - 20/10/2012 01:07:50 AM 783 Views
Technically, privileges, not rights. - 20/10/2012 04:16:45 AM 787 Views
Sure - 20/10/2012 12:35:53 AM 717 Views
All for it... For adults over the age of 18. *NM* - 20/10/2012 01:18:04 AM 427 Views
What about it? - 20/10/2012 01:21:17 AM 784 Views
+1 *NM* - 20/10/2012 01:51:25 AM 452 Views
+2 *NM* - 20/10/2012 11:18:39 AM 399 Views
should be legal, would be nice for poly people. should include polygyny and polyandry. *NM* - 20/10/2012 03:29:05 AM 402 Views
poly people? - 20/10/2012 12:44:01 PM 752 Views
Government needs to stop legislating morality. So yes *NM* - 20/10/2012 03:36:37 AM 390 Views
That's a huge chunk of what government does. - 20/10/2012 04:35:45 PM 755 Views
That's not what I'm saying - 21/10/2012 03:21:08 AM 777 Views
So you're opposed to abortion and gun control then? Welcome aboard! - 21/10/2012 06:14:14 AM 728 Views
Why do you keep talking about gay marriage and polygamy in the same sentence.. - 20/10/2012 03:58:26 AM 792 Views
Get a grip. Your response is just what I tried to avoid. - 20/10/2012 04:33:40 AM 718 Views
The more fool you. - 21/10/2012 05:55:30 AM 813 Views
Ha! Point. *NM* - 20/10/2012 05:40:34 AM 590 Views
Marriage is always a choice, whatever the motive(s.) - 22/10/2012 04:00:40 PM 748 Views
I am fine with it if all existing parties to the marriage consent to each addition. - 20/10/2012 10:10:19 AM 832 Views
I got no opinion on it. - 20/10/2012 12:51:43 PM 846 Views
The idea of a group marriage makes me uncomfortable - 20/10/2012 04:19:48 PM 721 Views
As long as it is equitable - 20/10/2012 05:55:57 PM 718 Views
The state shouldn't even recognize marriage beyond name changes anyway - 21/10/2012 03:52:40 AM 793 Views
Indeed - 21/10/2012 06:04:41 AM 852 Views
I don't give a damn what you call it. That's your business. - 21/10/2012 06:17:40 AM 1122 Views
And so? - 21/10/2012 07:05:08 AM 748 Views
Re: And so? - 21/10/2012 04:10:19 PM 930 Views
Legal contracts must be open to all consenting adults, or none. - 22/10/2012 03:11:55 PM 806 Views
You are correct, yet your reasoning is flawed. - 23/10/2012 03:20:25 PM 722 Views
Again, the Equal Protection Clause has far less force on private entities than on government. - 23/10/2012 03:52:06 PM 664 Views
Much less force, yes. - 23/10/2012 04:15:03 PM 674 Views
The crux is "If it's my business, it's my business." - 23/10/2012 04:43:25 PM 745 Views
+1 *NM* - 23/10/2012 07:36:46 PM 334 Views
No the analogy is not exact, nor legally the same... - 23/10/2012 07:33:25 PM 638 Views
Analogy is not equality, only similarity. - 24/10/2012 04:37:29 PM 840 Views
We aren't asking for something better or different. - 23/10/2012 04:27:04 PM 727 Views
yeah, it is very circular. - 23/10/2012 07:44:33 PM 765 Views

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