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Another "I love you" dilemma Aeryn Send a noteboard - 28/09/2009 03:12:13 PM
Ahhh... this is really embarrassing.

I met a guy recently (about a week ago). And I said, "I love you" to him very quickly. On our second date. I lost my head. It was during sex, the flow of blood to the brain was suboptimal, I kept staring into his eyes and I knew that whatever I was feeling, he was feeling the same for me. It felt like love to me, so I said it. He didn't say it back, which I'm fine with.

What I'm not fine with is what happened after. The next day, he pulled away from a kiss "hello" and instead gave me a speech of how he's not in love with me yet, in a way that immediately cured me of my infatuation. And since then, he's been acting weird and clingy, and that bothers me the most. Also, the guy's a horrible mess, with a sordid past and multiple marriages. I don't think want to be in a relationship with him. I want to slowly disentangle from him, which isn't that easy because 1) he's clingy and 2) I'm incredibly attracted to him.

So what do I do?

a) Do I just go cold turkey? Cut him off, ignore communications, and hope I'm strong enough to wait it out?

b) Tell him I need more space and try to make it light, casual, and friendly?

c) How do I make him not like me as much? Would more sex or less sex accomplish that goal better?

I should say this. I may say I don't not want him, but I do. I can't help but smile around him. Hugging him feels like coming home. But the moment he gets a little pushy, my ego screams in protest.
This message last edited by Aeryn on 28/09/2009 at 03:57:29 PM
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