Ahhh... this is really embarrassing.
I met a guy recently (about a week ago). And I said, "I love you" to him very quickly. On our second date. I lost my head. It was during sex, the flow of blood to the brain was suboptimal, I kept staring into his eyes and I knew that whatever I was feeling, he was feeling the same for me. It felt like love to me, so I said it. He didn't say it back, which I'm fine with.
What I'm not fine with is what happened after. The next day, he pulled away from a kiss "hello" and instead gave me a speech of how he's not in love with me yet, in a way that immediately cured me of my infatuation. And since then, he's been acting weird and clingy, and that bothers me the most. Also, the guy's a horrible mess, with a sordid past and multiple marriages. I don't think want to be in a relationship with him. I want to slowly disentangle from him, which isn't that easy because 1) he's clingy and 2) I'm incredibly attracted to him.
So what do I do?
a) Do I just go cold turkey? Cut him off, ignore communications, and hope I'm strong enough to wait it out?
b) Tell him I need more space and try to make it light, casual, and friendly?
c) How do I make him not like me as much? Would more sex or less sex accomplish that goal better?
I should say this. I may say I don't not want him, but I do. I can't help but smile around him. Hugging him feels like coming home. But the moment he gets a little pushy, my ego screams in protest.
I met a guy recently (about a week ago). And I said, "I love you" to him very quickly. On our second date. I lost my head. It was during sex, the flow of blood to the brain was suboptimal, I kept staring into his eyes and I knew that whatever I was feeling, he was feeling the same for me. It felt like love to me, so I said it. He didn't say it back, which I'm fine with.
What I'm not fine with is what happened after. The next day, he pulled away from a kiss "hello" and instead gave me a speech of how he's not in love with me yet, in a way that immediately cured me of my infatuation. And since then, he's been acting weird and clingy, and that bothers me the most. Also, the guy's a horrible mess, with a sordid past and multiple marriages. I don't think want to be in a relationship with him. I want to slowly disentangle from him, which isn't that easy because 1) he's clingy and 2) I'm incredibly attracted to him.
So what do I do?
a) Do I just go cold turkey? Cut him off, ignore communications, and hope I'm strong enough to wait it out?
b) Tell him I need more space and try to make it light, casual, and friendly?
c) How do I make him not like me as much? Would more sex or less sex accomplish that goal better?
I should say this. I may say I don't not want him, but I do. I can't help but smile around him. Hugging him feels like coming home. But the moment he gets a little pushy, my ego screams in protest.
This message last edited by Aeryn on 28/09/2009 at 03:57:29 PM
Another "I love you" dilemma
28/09/2009 03:12:13 PM
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Show him this post. That should take care of the "liking you" problem... *NM*
28/09/2009 04:27:18 PM
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ROFL
28/09/2009 04:37:08 PM
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Re: ROFL
28/09/2009 04:56:05 PM
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Ah. After reading your journal it makes sense.
28/09/2009 04:46:06 PM
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Maybe a little harsh?
28/09/2009 04:52:11 PM
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No, that was pretty much on point. *NM*
28/09/2009 04:54:19 PM
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I didn't say it wasn't. See if I try to stick up for you next time. *NM*
28/09/2009 05:57:13 PM
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Hey, if that's how you really feel, you shouldn't have told me you loved me!
28/09/2009 06:01:49 PM
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Sareitha's response + Nossy's Response = Ave's response *NM*
28/09/2009 06:10:15 PM
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My response + Wulf`gar's respose (were he here to respond) + Ave's combo response =
28/09/2009 06:38:34 PM
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I concur X2 *NM*
28/09/2009 06:53:17 PM
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My response + your response divided by pi = the correct response. *NM*
28/09/2009 06:56:54 PM
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And why don't you remind us who you were at wotmania? *NM*
28/09/2009 08:41:18 PM
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You cannot seriously need to ask... or are you asking for others' benefit? *NM*
28/09/2009 09:40:52 PM
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Either way, I for one have no idea *NM*
28/09/2009 10:07:53 PM
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It's pretty clear if you know her. And if people don't know her, maybe she doesn't want them to. *NM*
28/09/2009 10:30:36 PM
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What if you just told him you only said "I <3 you" in the throes of passion & didn't really mean it? *NM*
28/09/2009 09:38:15 PM
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It seems to me ...
28/09/2009 10:37:20 PM
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Damn, I'm a week too late.
05/10/2009 07:03:44 PM
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