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Re: Since few people oppose ADULT contraception access, that might be wise in this case. Dreaded Anomaly Send a noteboard - 05/02/2012 02:11:28 AM
No argument here; I oppose abstinence-only sex ed. I merely sought to explain why many support it for reasons unrelated to "oppression." Kids should be taught abstinence is the only perfect means of preventing pregnancy (because it is,) but also receive comprehensive contraception education because 1) nearly all will have sex before their majority (let alone marriage) anyway and 2) so they understand contraception is not a panacea. In particular, not only does it imperfectly prevent pregnancy, but most is USELESS against STDs. That is irrelevant to abortion, but HIGHLY relevant to health.


Yes, for sexually active people, getting STD screenings is very important. Planned Parenthood does just as much of that as it provides birth control. Hm, it's almost like they're aware of these facts, and act based on them!

People who support abstinence-only education have unrealistic ideas about both sex and their children. There's no getting around that. As I said, sex ed affects the future adult, not just the current teenager.

I said outright age of consent
varies by locale, and there is often some latitude when both (or however many) partners are close to the same age.

How specific did you want it? Age of consent varies by country and, within the US, by state. It is close in most cases, (only varying two years in the US,) though, again, minors near the same age often receive legal latitude few adults enjoy. I believe the rule of thumb is one must be within four years of their partners age, so in many (NOT all) jurisdictions it is legal, not only at 17, but even at 19, sometimes even 20, to have sex with 16 year olds even in the nineteen states where age of consent is >16. After 21 it is simple: Anyone <17 is off limits, except in the 31 states where the age of consent is 16. In eleven states the age of consent is 18 but, depending on local "grace period" (if any,) someone who recently turned 22 might legally be able to have sex with someone who turned 17 nearly a year ago. Better? :P

For once, I thought MY point would not suffer from more brevity. I still think it does not. ;) GENERALLY SPEAKING, US society and law discourages minors having sex, so many "nonoppresive" people oppose teaching kids to safely do something currently illegal for them.

As to relevance, tangents are by definition tangential to a point, and therefore not completely unconnected. In this case, age of consent is far more than a tangent; many people oppose sex education, not out of oppression, but because they (and the law) oppose kids having sex in the first place. Obviously, that is both naïve and short sighted, because most kids do it despite the law, and even those who do not should know how to have safe sex once they are no longer kids. I do not SHARE that view, but do UNDERSTAND it, to a degree your statement did not reflect, so I sought to explain it. Ignorance or idealism are no better justifications than malice, but not abusive, tyrannical or "oppressive." Painting sex ed opponents as "oppressors" offers a rallying point and sense of superiority similar to painting pro choice people as "baby murderers" but is no more fair or accurate.


I have only said that their sexual mores are oppressive; you are the one who seems insistent on labeling them oppressors because of that. The terminology of sexual oppression is not new, and I certainly did not invent it myself. Just look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_norm, for starters.

Arguing from age of consent laws is silly. Those laws are a low-order approximation to the underlying morality. We consider sex to be wrong if one or both (or more) parties have an impaired or undeveloped ability to consent. There are many nuanced situations in which that could be the case; the law makes gross approximations by age because it can't accurately evaluate most of those situations on an individual basis. I am sure that some people under the age of consent are still mentally able to consent, and some people over it are not able. The legal age of consent was not handed down from on high, and its existence is not an argument against safety education (which is what sex ed actually is).

There's a difference between understanding why people hold the views they do, and accepting those views as legitimate or grounded.

That would reduce, but NOT eliminate, abortion and we both know it (I hope.)

While I agree ignoring reality is often the problem, ignorance is not oppression, though it can lead to that, inadvertently or otherwise. A lot of pro lifers (and pro choicers) could support implants (in the absence of real medical concerns) as an abortion alternative, but finding majorities who support them for 12 or 14 year olds would probably be difficult. Fourteen is WELL below the age of consent in all 50 states, and even people who recognize it happens anyway try to avoid anything encouraging it (and, yes, telling teens contraception eliminates the chance of pregnancy would encourage sex, in addition to being false.)


Some 12 or 14 year olds can still get pregnant; if we're really trying to prevent unplanned pregnancies, that's where to start. I think you're overestimating the amount of risk assessment or weighing that teenagers do at any point. Availability of reliable birth control has not been shown to encourage sex.

We will never completely eliminate the chance of pregnancy without actually removing the reproductive system, but we can get the chance low enough that it isn't worth worrying about.

The BBC article only cites REPORTED problems, which makes a big difference (hence drug trials actively seeking reports from all test subjects.) If I had to bet, I expect most of the pregnant women in that BBC article thought their implants made pregnancy impossible, and were outraged at the result of "ignoring reality."

All hormonal treatments have side effects, yes; that, and how little we know about the long term ones of most, has much more to do with reservations than does any "oppression." You should have seen my wifes eyes pop when I read her that line about implants for 12 year olds, and not because Norway is some anti-reproductive rights bastion. She actually talked more about her doctor putting her back on the pill because of concerns about osteoporosis with injections and what they did to her menstruation. We both fully support reproductive rights, but think everyone getting an implant at 12 a really bad idea.

Incidentally, your phrasing there was ambiguous, but for the purposes of an online discussion I can assume you meant implants should be available for 12 year olds rather than compulsory (i.e. reproductive CHOICE, not just oppression via government rather than guardian.) In light of the fight Perry started when he tried to mandate the HPV vaccine for TX school girls, I recommend making it explicit when trying to convince people. ;) I generally support peoples freedom to do whatever they wish with their own bodies so long as they know the risks (though the importance of understanding the risks often makes minors an exception to that general rule,) but many disagree. Either way, no "choice" shoved down the throats of kids (and their parents) is better than another.


I think that we need to move toward social norms which would make getting a birth control implant (at whatever age) the accepted, usual, and responsible option. Spreading disinformation about birth control must be discouraged, as well as parents foisting oppressive sexual mores on their children. The operative question to be asked is, "do you want your daughter to be forced to carry a pregnancy to term if she gets raped?" (Assuming, in the ideal world of the (fictitious) reasonable pro-life movement, abortion is outlawed once such implants exist.)

Pregnancy is always on the sexual table (or heterosexual table.) If you consider that "oppression," take it up with Mother Nature, but you severely overextended the meaning of "oppression." Noting that was a high point of my reply, and much (though not all) of my point. Practically no US adult is sexually "oppressed" (the few exceptions are oppressed illegally, so changing laws will not help them) and you are a little old to believe every parental choice a child dislikes "oppression."

It is neither fair nor accurate for EITHER side to paint the other as seeking to brutalize children; it may feel good, but is counterproductive.


You are speaking descriptively. My impression is that the "pro-life" movement view that fact prescriptively, i.e., pregnancy should be the consequence of sex.

I address your misunderstanding of the idea of oppressive sexual mores above.

That one is news to me, but a natural death is not killing, and killing not necessarily murder. On the other hand, logic is often the first casualty of such debates.


As I explained to nossy:

Yes, miscarriages are natural. So are any number of diseases, disorders, injuries, etc., but we still try to cure those so that people don't die. If a zygote is a person, why does the "pro-life" movement give zero attention to medical research that might save more of them from miscarriages?
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Susan G. Komen cuts funds to Planned Parenthood. (with updated edit) - 02/02/2012 04:32:27 PM 2627 Views
The most annoying part is in the sixth paragraph- abortions are only a small part of their thing - 02/02/2012 05:08:07 PM 1482 Views
I agree. - 02/02/2012 05:20:17 PM 1351 Views
I can understand it though. - 02/02/2012 05:45:55 PM 1444 Views
I can too, it just isn't for me. - 02/02/2012 05:58:33 PM 1376 Views
Actually, there are longer-acting forms of birth control than the pill. - 03/02/2012 12:37:42 AM 1358 Views
I do think that preventing abortions is their primary goal. - 03/02/2012 01:08:05 AM 1350 Views
If they don't see that link, it's because they haven't looked. - 03/02/2012 02:42:42 AM 1433 Views
That is a little unfair. - 03/02/2012 12:48:46 PM 1700 Views
Won't someone please think of the children?! - 04/02/2012 05:03:27 AM 1423 Views
I think you're leaving out some important points. - 04/02/2012 03:40:48 PM 1320 Views
Ah, the good ol' silent majority. - 04/02/2012 07:32:29 PM 1329 Views
So which moron is feeding you this crap? - 04/02/2012 10:27:15 PM 1373 Views
A zygote isn't a person, because it doesn't have a brain. - 05/02/2012 12:33:29 AM 1358 Views
It worries me when we think alike.... - 05/02/2012 01:22:35 PM 1437 Views
Brain waves at 8 weeks are a myth. - 05/02/2012 08:46:06 PM 1490 Views
"brain function... appears to be reliably present in the fetus at about eight weeks' gestation." - 05/02/2012 10:42:35 PM 1430 Views
Oh please. - 05/02/2012 11:13:50 PM 1374 Views
Re: Oh please yourself. - 06/02/2012 09:15:26 PM 1256 Views
Quite a telling reply. - 07/02/2012 04:38:20 AM 1357 Views
Re: I quite agree. - 08/02/2012 06:03:23 PM 1545 Views
You're taking an issue of objective facts and treating it like a day of playground gossip. - 09/02/2012 03:47:06 AM 1367 Views
No, your source, in which there is very little that is objective, did that for me. - 11/02/2012 02:59:45 AM 1391 Views
I see you have continued to provide no factual arguments. - 14/02/2012 04:53:28 AM 1690 Views
I presented factual rebuttals. - 19/02/2012 01:56:45 AM 1439 Views
You continue to miss the point. - 23/02/2012 10:22:24 PM 1526 Views
Well, yes. - 04/02/2012 11:14:47 PM 1460 Views
A silent majority may as well not exist, if it has no tangible effects. - 05/02/2012 12:54:34 AM 1333 Views
You ignoring it is not the same thing as it having no tangible effect. - 05/02/2012 02:11:36 AM 1448 Views
Ignoring what? You haven't shown me anything solid. - 05/02/2012 05:25:23 AM 1332 Views
It's ok, we're done. *NM* - 05/02/2012 09:29:05 AM 790 Views
Since few people oppose ADULT contraception access, that might be wise in this case. - 04/02/2012 08:25:49 PM 1500 Views
Re: Since few people oppose ADULT contraception access, that might be wise in this case. - 05/02/2012 02:11:28 AM 1363 Views
If you are arguing most sex ed opponents are naïve/ignorant, I agree. - 05/02/2012 08:42:17 AM 1191 Views
Re: If you are arguing most sex ed opponents are naïve/ignorant, I agree. - 05/02/2012 10:04:59 PM 1386 Views
Re: If you are arguing most sex ed opponents are naïve/ignorant, I agree. - 06/02/2012 08:57:38 PM 1321 Views
I'm done discussing my use of the term "oppression." The Tim Ryan stuff is interesting, though. - 07/02/2012 05:37:05 AM 1465 Views
Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 08/02/2012 06:01:32 PM 1574 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 09/02/2012 05:30:58 AM 1425 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 11/02/2012 02:58:00 AM 1424 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 14/02/2012 04:29:08 AM 1514 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 19/02/2012 01:54:30 AM 1407 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 23/02/2012 10:59:32 PM 1731 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 07/03/2012 01:47:44 AM 1399 Views
Re: Yet, regrettably, not done misusing it. - 15/03/2012 10:27:23 PM 1628 Views
There are problems with the implants - 03/02/2012 01:42:55 AM 1403 Views
You have a talent for understatement. - 03/02/2012 01:08:40 PM 1417 Views
I agree that they have made Beast Cancer a cult but splitting with PP is just smart - 02/02/2012 05:39:49 PM 1551 Views
I agree. - 02/02/2012 06:00:17 PM 1329 Views
yes she is going to have to piss off one group or the other - 02/02/2012 06:12:31 PM 1371 Views
Right - 02/02/2012 06:24:14 PM 1429 Views
Do you see a way Komen could have avoided pissing off one side? - 02/02/2012 06:55:36 PM 1336 Views
No, I don't. I don't believe I said that? - 02/02/2012 07:53:50 PM 1261 Views
You didn't; I inferred it from the way you phrased that ("if she HAS to..."). Sorry. - 02/02/2012 08:06:11 PM 1429 Views
I know I'm not always clear. - 02/02/2012 08:32:47 PM 1351 Views
Just curious... - 02/02/2012 10:07:49 PM 1345 Views
Not at all. - 02/02/2012 10:24:19 PM 1381 Views
Not at all? - 02/02/2012 10:32:31 PM 1294 Views
No. - 02/02/2012 10:47:04 PM 1232 Views
My argument is based on my belief that the pro-choice women are more dedicated to women's causes - 02/02/2012 11:17:24 PM 1314 Views
Re: My argument is based on my belief that the pro-choice women are more dedicated to women's causes - 03/02/2012 12:08:01 AM 1328 Views
wow that may be the worst advice I had in weeks - 03/02/2012 12:13:18 AM 1317 Views
Ooor, the best. - 03/02/2012 12:25:56 AM 1297 Views
ok now you are just being mean *NM* - 03/02/2012 12:46:12 AM 787 Views
The thread was going too well - I thought we needed the meanness. *NM* - 03/02/2012 11:30:39 AM 725 Views
rabble rouser *NM* - 04/02/2012 04:24:01 AM 798 Views
I misread this at first - 03/02/2012 12:51:44 AM 1338 Views
not to mention codeine seems to make me double post - 02/02/2012 11:17:26 PM 2386 Views
I'm not so sure I agree. Or not completely. - 02/02/2012 06:14:11 PM 1293 Views
I don't diagree with the way you see it - 02/02/2012 06:39:41 PM 1363 Views
More inevitable than anything, considering who started Komen. - 02/02/2012 10:19:34 PM 1350 Views
Never having heard of any of those except PP, my opinion may not be the most relevant... - 02/02/2012 08:32:48 PM 1410 Views
You don't know stuff. - 02/02/2012 08:43:38 PM 1391 Views
I know the stuff that matters. - 02/02/2012 09:55:08 PM 1270 Views
That's true. - 02/02/2012 10:34:32 PM 1393 Views
they may also be a afraid that PP will go the way of ACORN - 02/02/2012 11:04:16 PM 1439 Views
"Accused" of = unfounded slander. - 03/02/2012 12:13:30 AM 1459 Views
This is so foreign a debate for me - 02/02/2012 10:16:15 PM 1402 Views
Must be nice. *NM* - 03/02/2012 12:26:49 AM 805 Views
Re: stuff - 03/02/2012 09:18:53 AM 1271 Views
I'm sorry, but what're we talking about when we're talking about "cancer" - 03/02/2012 12:49:34 PM 1344 Views
Obviously not adenocarcinoma, no. - 04/02/2012 07:36:06 AM 1437 Views
I"m not that fussed. I'm just generally leary of research that has results like that - 04/02/2012 08:35:04 PM 1274 Views
Fair enough. - 04/02/2012 10:17:31 PM 1436 Views
They restored funding incidentally - 03/02/2012 05:43:47 PM 1332 Views
Unless I've missed it - 03/02/2012 05:56:15 PM 1371 Views
You must have missed it then - 03/02/2012 07:07:13 PM 1322 Views
If you're referring to Cannoli - 03/02/2012 07:19:25 PM 1468 Views
Multiple was not an accidental choice of words - 03/02/2012 11:46:30 PM 1324 Views
Then I agree that maybe this is not the thread for you. - 04/02/2012 12:41:42 AM 1367 Views
Re: Then I agree that maybe this is not the thread for you. - 04/02/2012 01:53:25 AM 1560 Views
Well, I'll try again for both of us. - 04/02/2012 02:56:42 PM 1413 Views
Re: Well, I'll try again for both of us. - 04/02/2012 07:40:25 PM 1354 Views
well at least there will not be any doubt about this being a political decision - 03/02/2012 06:24:14 PM 1460 Views
I think that ship sailed long ago. - 03/02/2012 08:45:13 PM 1308 Views
Truth - 04/02/2012 02:07:20 AM 1351 Views
I do wonder a bit which lawmakers Fox thinks "pressured" Komen. - 03/02/2012 08:29:50 PM 1289 Views
are you trying to disprove the study you posted? - 03/02/2012 09:20:12 PM 1462 Views
To me, it depends on the nature of the contact, which I have not dug enough to discover. - 03/02/2012 10:43:45 PM 1289 Views
you admit you have no incite into what happened - 04/02/2012 04:27:17 AM 1373 Views
Actually, it looks like Komens new VP (and former GOP GA gubernatorial candidate) had the incite. - 04/02/2012 04:24:14 PM 1417 Views
educated guess don't work when you are tinfoil hat wearing kool-aid drinker - 04/02/2012 09:33:49 PM 1318 Views
Dude. - 04/02/2012 11:20:49 PM 1206 Views
Yo mama? - 05/02/2012 05:32:11 AM 1389 Views
whhhhhhyyyyyy - 04/02/2012 11:23:58 PM 1377 Views
Why would I not think that? - 05/02/2012 05:46:15 AM 1232 Views

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