Yes, orgasm is the purpose of sex. I, however, have had a couple of situations where I didn't feel an orgasm coming. My girlfriend already orgasmed 2 times so I was fine in stopping. IT WAS MY CHOICE. It doesn't change the fact that the purpose of sex is to experience the intense pleasure of an orgasm. Ok, so you argue that it is a narrow view of sex. So prove me wrong. What other views are there? To have a baby, ok. What else? Anything?
Reasons to have sex (in no particular order):
1) Orgasm
2) Reproduction
3) Fun
4) Societal Bonding
5) Boredom
6) Tequila
7) Exchange of goods (i.e. prostitution/similar)
It's called science. A woman doesn't lose anything when she has an orgasm. More likely than not, a man will lose his hard-on! It's science making my claim, not me. And let me say, once again, THESE ARE NOT RULES AND REGULATIONS. Nowhere did I say I was writing the bible on sex. This is my PERSONAL opinion based on PERSONAL experience.
Your "science" is wrong or is looking through a very narrow definition of "losing anything". Yes, a woman doesn't lose a "hard on", but we can lose clitoral erection for a time and an increased stimulus may be too painful for some women. Also, some women DON'T have multiple orgasms. I will usually only have ONE good clitoral orgasm and after that I'm done. I can keep playing around (just like a man can), but I'm really rather done. Yes, if you want to be nitpicky, I CAN continue to have sex because my vagina doesn't shrivel up and close. But it's really no more entertaining for me than a man fingering a woman after he's orgasmed.
That's because, in my PERSONAL experience, not a scientific study ok, guys can be selfish bastards. Once they're done, that's it. Now, there is some science on my side. The release of a chemical after orgasm that makes a man sleepy. But I don't care about that. Women want to experience pleasure just as much as men. So I don't think men should leave their women unsatisifed. That's just my PERSONAL opinion. I am not saying everyone should be like this.
I can't speak for all women, but if I have a full-blown orgasm I get insanely sleepy. Like...curl up in a ball and nap for a couple hours sleepy, sometimes. This is one of the reasons that, personally, I DON'T want to orgasm everytime I have sex. If I want to continue to want to/have sex that day (which sometimes I do, when the opportunity is available), I need to hold off. That and it's hard to pay attention in class when I'm that sleepy.
Your anger at having people disagree tells me that--even if you're not saying everyone should be like that--you don't want people to disagree with you either. Helene isn't taking an unreasonable tone with you, but YOU are the one freaking out like she just slapped your mother.
I understand you feel insulted, dude...but you're the only one freaking out here. Someone was bound to disagree with you and while people shouldn't have jumped down your throat, you're way over reacting about a topic a that's insanely subjective.
Still Empress of the Poofy Purple Pillow Pile Palace!!
Continued Love of my Aussie <3
Continued Love of my Aussie <3
This message last edited by LadyLorraine on 01/02/2012 at 09:18:30 PM
Uncomfortable sex facts (because this board needs more spice)
31/01/2012 04:56:13 PM
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There is a reason it is uncomfortable.
31/01/2012 05:43:22 PM
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What, are we going to get stupid clichés about geeks on a geek site?
01/02/2012 09:59:41 PM
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Wait, wait, wait!
01/02/2012 10:08:38 PM
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I didn't exactly think this was a mystery...
01/02/2012 10:15:57 PM
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Come back when you're an adult. *NM*
31/01/2012 05:59:52 PM
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Oh please. *NM*
01/02/2012 07:02:10 PM
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It's pretty clear that the poster is hypersensitive and immature.
01/02/2012 07:54:55 PM
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It's called anger. Call it immaturity if it suits you.
01/02/2012 08:04:23 PM
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You also act as if I actively insulted you... which I haven't. *NM*
01/02/2012 09:35:48 PM
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Actively? Maybe, maybe not. Passively? Definitely
01/02/2012 09:57:02 PM
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I think her point is that she's not using that phrase as an insult
01/02/2012 10:01:13 PM
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Oh for goodness sake I don't even know where to start, there's so much wrong with this.
31/01/2012 07:02:34 PM
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How old are you?
31/01/2012 07:36:33 PM
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Someone tells you to grow up and this your response?
31/01/2012 09:51:31 PM
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Yes, it is a mature, reasonable angry response
31/01/2012 10:10:08 PM
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Re: Yes, it is a mature, reasonable angry response
31/01/2012 10:43:16 PM
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No, I was filling in the blank
31/01/2012 10:52:30 PM
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I think you'll find the arrow was supposed to point at the quote of your post below.
31/01/2012 11:11:15 PM
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It's not so much that what you write is "wrong", but it shows you are a bit naive and inexperienced
31/01/2012 07:28:09 PM
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Jesus Christ people
31/01/2012 07:35:28 PM
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LOL... I'm not a prude. Let me elaborate.
31/01/2012 08:19:22 PM
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Re: LOL... I'm not a prude. Let me elaborate.
31/01/2012 09:47:23 PM
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Just to jump in for a second.
31/01/2012 10:50:12 PM
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People seem to be missing my point
31/01/2012 10:58:42 PM
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'Weird' is a loaded word. It carries a judgment.
31/01/2012 11:03:12 PM
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Goodness, people, they are not "rules." He clearly states these are his PERSONAL opinions.
01/02/2012 07:10:27 PM
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I point you to the title of his post: "Uncomfortable sex FACTS" (caps mine).
01/02/2012 09:36:00 PM
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Facts for me *NM*
01/02/2012 09:44:43 PM
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....That is not the definition of a fact. *NM*
01/02/2012 09:48:10 PM
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Quote: "Here are some musings from my personal experience". Context matters. Nitpicking is annoying. *NM*
02/02/2012 01:27:00 AM
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He made hard and fast rules???
01/02/2012 05:00:30 AM
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Thank you!
01/02/2012 03:25:57 PM
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I'm still pretty confused. Many of the people who are acting immature towards you
02/02/2012 05:27:49 AM
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Different strokes for different folks
01/02/2012 04:38:45 PM
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Please stop questioning my sexual experience
01/02/2012 04:49:28 PM
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You just complained that you don't have sex often enough to laugh during sex... and now claim to
01/02/2012 05:15:21 PM
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I did?
01/02/2012 05:37:55 PM
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*snort* I don't think anyone should have jumped down your throat...
01/02/2012 05:49:27 PM
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Anybody who hasn't jumped down my throat hasn't replied with anything I can respond to
01/02/2012 06:04:53 PM
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To me, that just sounds like you're looking for agreement, not discussion
01/02/2012 08:07:19 PM
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I didn't call you a virgin...?
01/02/2012 08:23:25 PM
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Man you just don't get it
01/02/2012 08:43:21 PM
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since you asked...
01/02/2012 09:14:44 PM
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Re: since you asked...
01/02/2012 09:44:03 PM
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Helene has yet to actually insult you
01/02/2012 09:55:32 PM
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The caps really aren't going to help your case, you do realize...
01/02/2012 09:16:50 PM
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You sure get worked up
01/02/2012 09:29:34 PM
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I suppose asking if "you're a bit of a twat" isn't an insult, but just a reasonable hypothesis?
02/02/2012 12:41:50 AM
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And here I was about to write another post about hardcore pornography *NM*
31/01/2012 07:31:14 PM
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Not having to shave my balls is just anohter reason to be glad I am married *NM*
01/02/2012 04:56:19 PM
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well if the damn system is going to double post then add no condom required as another reason *NM*
01/02/2012 04:56:20 PM
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Don't know why everyone jumped on you like they did.
01/02/2012 07:07:14 PM
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Thanks for the support
01/02/2012 08:01:27 PM
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Perhaps they don't read enough "sex advice" articles online? Every list is phrased that way. *NM*
02/02/2012 01:29:12 AM
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Admittedly, I tend to find online sex tips articles to be pretty juvinile too *NM*
02/02/2012 01:36:08 AM
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Ya don't say.
02/02/2012 11:21:45 PM
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It means I'm not part of the target demographic for these articles. *NM*
03/02/2012 08:53:49 AM
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You linked me to one of them once upon a time.
03/02/2012 09:11:58 AM
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The article I linked you to was wholly different from the type of article Aeryn was referring to
03/02/2012 03:03:50 PM
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Ah, then I do not feel as bad (just maybe a bit guilty for the comparison.)
03/02/2012 03:22:52 PM
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This thread cracks me up. *NM*
01/02/2012 09:34:52 PM
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It got out of hand, sadly
01/02/2012 09:50:46 PM
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ignoring things is usually the best way to keep them from squiggling out of hand
01/02/2012 09:59:35 PM
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I'm kind of upset by it and wishing I hadn't posted at all, to be honest.
01/02/2012 10:58:51 PM
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Uh huh, that discussion completely went south
02/02/2012 12:27:02 AM
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Helene and Morgawse are worthless and pedantic nothings. Ignore them next time. Thread was fine. *NM*
01/02/2012 10:40:53 PM
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Uncalled for and completely untrue
01/02/2012 11:03:52 PM
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Right. Really?
02/02/2012 12:36:28 AM
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I referred to you making a rude and general statement about people I doubt you know very well
02/02/2012 08:52:09 AM
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I don't know what bone you have to pick with me, but I doubt I deserve it
02/02/2012 12:38:45 AM
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Man, there was some piling on in this thread. I didn't think your post was that bad.
02/02/2012 06:06:02 AM
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Re: Uncomfortable sex facts (because this board needs more spice)
02/02/2012 02:47:45 PM
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Too crass. For real spice try the hot sex in this video
03/02/2012 12:30:21 PM
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The cuts to a woman cleaning her kitchen kinda ruin it for me *NM*
03/02/2012 12:36:25 PM
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