Your first paragraph is meaningless. Again, tolerance is not about being okay with stuff that you are not personally into. If you believe that homosexuality is perfectlly fine and you are not offended by homosexual behavior, then there is no tolerance required, even though you aren't into it.

Tolerance is not about being okay with people that like vanilla when you like chocolate. Tolerance is being at peace with people eating vanilla when you think it is wrong to eat vanilla and that it is bad for individuals and society.

I am tolerant with my children when I am bothered by what they do but am patient with them. A person with high pain tolerance is not a person that feels no pain, but a person that can feel a lot of pain and still function.

So yes I believe that accepting homosexuality as just fine does not make a heterosexual person tolerant. Advocating for homosexual rights (while being heterosexual) does not make one tolerant.

A tolerant person is one who is bothered or offended by the notion that homosexuality is immoral, but is patient and at peace with those that hold it. Likewise a tolerant person is one that finds homosexuality to be wrong or sinful, but endures it in others and is at peace with it.

So in my opinion the tough question is how much should people tolerate. We would all agree that we should not tolerate murder. But there isn't agreement on gay marriage. Some people won't tolerate those who want to redefine marriage to something it has never been. Others won't tolerate those who want to deny homosexuals the right to marry each other. We all believe tolerance should be limited.

For me, I believe it is most important for people to not hate each other. Many people who claim that they want love to rule are in fact filled with hatred for those that oppose them. You can't have it both ways. I know people that are true homophobes; they hate gay people. I know some that truly hate those that oppose homosexual marriage. How do you know the haters? They are the most vitriolic, angry, and quickest to dehumanize their opponents. And both sides of the issue are swarming with them.

For those that are Christian, the Apostle John asks a searching question: (paraphrasing) "How can you claim to love God whom you have not seen, when you hate your brother whom you have seen?" And Jesus himself said (paraphrasing various verses), if you love only them that love you, what good have you done? Everybody does that. Love your enemy, pray for them that persecute you, etc...