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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:50:38 PM
The thing is I don't have a lot of confidence in my driving abilities and I feel like I do make mistakes. Well not just feel like it- I know so. I have less confidence in my driving than in others' driving. A driver that made a mistake would be considered at fault, right?

I'm fine being the passenger, because I trust others to be good drivers. Within reason, of course- I wear a seatbelt and I never have and never will get into a car with someone the least bit intoxicated, no matter what he says of how "totally fine" to drive he is.





Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?";) and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

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NSSP: Driving Vivien - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1500 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1018 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 945 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 937 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:50:38 PM 996 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* random thoughts - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 415 Views
I failed my first test. Nate - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1137 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 916 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) Linda - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1005 Views
Congratulations on passing it! Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 933 Views
13 yrs old. FalonDeathwatchGuard - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1146 Views
Seriously? Why? At 13 you should have had some awareness of the danger you were posing to others Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:27:59 PM 1034 Views
Re: Seriously? Why? At 13 you should have had some awareness of the danger you were posing to others FalonDeathwatchGuard - 13/12/2011 10:37:41 PM 886 Views
Probably just a difference in perspective. Kids sneaking a vehicle for a jor ride is pretty common. everynametaken - 15/12/2011 03:51:30 AM 1026 Views
Yeah it is! vroom vroom vroom!! FalonDeathwatchGuard - 15/12/2011 03:26:28 PM 1066 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. Macharius - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1142 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1030 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. Sareitha Sedai - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 971 Views
Yeah, absolutely. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1111 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* Aeryn - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 496 Views
Driving IS overrated. Jacob - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 988 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 813 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? Legolas - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 985 Views
I wouldn't think so Dark Knight - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 862 Views
I'm not in any state. Legolas - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 940 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 903 Views
It's rare to pass on the first try here. (according to driving instructor) Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:44:39 PM 1044 Views
I think it depends on where you live Isaac - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 882 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1059 Views
I know Texas talked about doing away with it because the failure rate was so low random thoughts - 14/12/2011 03:15:11 AM 945 Views
When I was in New Jersey... rebelaessedai - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 981 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 529 Views
I wonder how many people that have been driving for years and years would fail if they had to take Tashmere - 14/12/2011 12:03:55 AM 939 Views
Oh I think most people with years' worth of driving experience be fine. Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:27:09 AM 1143 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first ironclad - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1087 Views
I love driving. Avendesora - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1019 Views
Re: I love driving. Macharius - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 851 Views
Avendesora - 14/12/2011 06:02:42 PM 1145 Views
I thought it quite clever, actually. Macharius - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 833 Views
Me, too. aerocontrols - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 920 Views
Drive safely! Avendesora - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1002 Views
Re: Me, three. Palatine - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 990 Views
Re: Me, three. aerocontrols - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 873 Views
Welcome home. *NM* Palatine - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 433 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* Palatine - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 429 Views
I don't think so. Vivien - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1031 Views
Oh. ironclad - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1089 Views
Yes, you did. Palatine - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 935 Views
Re: Yes, you did. Vivien - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 933 Views
Re: Yes, you did. Palatine - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1137 Views
That's not a sign. Aeryn - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 990 Views
I take exception to this. Stephen - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 948 Views
Whoa. rebelaessedai - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1017 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* Aeryn - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 381 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 494 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. rebelaessedai - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1009 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. Tim - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 975 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. Vivien - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1096 Views
It's more pronounced and important in the countryside where there are no streetlights. Tim - 19/12/2011 05:51:25 PM 1091 Views
In the country there are deer aerocontrols - 20/12/2011 05:53:17 AM 966 Views
Oh yeah, forgot about those. We don't have that many left, and only up in the Highlands. *NM* Tim - 20/12/2011 10:18:41 AM 564 Views
Driving tests are far harder in the Netherlands, from what I understand Helene - 14/12/2011 05:34:38 PM 908 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. Tom - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 811 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. Macharius - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 879 Views
don't worry i fluffed my practical test up today Yunalesca - 14/12/2011 08:24:56 PM 1017 Views
I'm older than you and there's no way I would have willingly gotten behind the wheel at 17. Vivien - 15/12/2011 05:12:29 AM 920 Views
I found driving nervewracking until I got to do it by myself. NZ has a great system, IMO. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 01:48:19 PM 852 Views
It's really not that bad Praziquantel - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 986 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. Vivien - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 998 Views
That last part: just a joke. Vivien - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1049 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. TaskmasterJack - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1043 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. Vivien - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 845 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like aerocontrols - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 957 Views
Finally! The right word. Vivien - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 872 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 824 Views
No problem. aerocontrols - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1256 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. Bergioyn - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 970 Views
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