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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM
Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?" and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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NSSP: Driving - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1500 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1018 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 946 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 938 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 415 Views
I failed my first test. - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1138 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 916 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1006 Views
Congratulations on passing it! - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 934 Views
13 yrs old. - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1147 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1142 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1030 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 972 Views
Yeah, absolutely. - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1112 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 496 Views
Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 988 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 813 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 985 Views
I wouldn't think so - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 862 Views
I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 941 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 903 Views
I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 882 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1060 Views
When I was in New Jersey... - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 981 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 529 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1088 Views
I love driving. - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1020 Views
Re: I love driving. - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 852 Views
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I thought it quite clever, actually. - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 834 Views
Me, too. - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 921 Views
Drive safely! - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1003 Views
Re: Me, three. - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 991 Views
Re: Me, three. - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 874 Views
Welcome home. *NM* - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 434 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 429 Views
I don't think so. - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1031 Views
Oh. - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1089 Views
Yes, you did. - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 936 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 933 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1138 Views
That's not a sign. - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 991 Views
I take exception to this. - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 949 Views
Whoa. - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1018 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 381 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 494 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1009 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 975 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1097 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 812 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 879 Views
It's really not that bad - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 987 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 999 Views
That last part: just a joke. - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1049 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1044 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 845 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 958 Views
Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 872 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 824 Views
No problem. - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1257 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 971 Views

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